Hello everyone, I thought I would give you an update on my Disabled brother whose wife left him just over a week ago & I was getting myself so stressed out over it.
Well I'd like to say what a difference a week makes.
My Mum & a couple of family members came to the rescue & helped gut the house if the rubbish she had left behind her. A goid friend of my brother got a van & a couple of guys to take the unwanted furniture & rubbish away.
My Sister in Law is what I would call a hoarder. She would not come round & tell wgat was to be kept she just txtd my bro & told him what was not needed. There are a few black bags filled & sitting in the kitchen & also one ofvthe bedrooms.
On Friday Mum, bro & myself went out furniture shopping. My Mum bought a new double bed for the main bedroom & my brother bought 2 single beds for each of the boys should they want to come & stay. He akso bought the most gorgeous red lamp that stands on the foor & is abought 5'5" tall & lights the whole way up, he bought a lovely red spagetti floor rug, cushions & a couple of picture. He spent a fortune. When the accessories were all in place in the main living room it made such a difference to the room. Warm & cosy looking.
He txt his wife & tild her she had until Sunday to come & take what stuff has been bagged up belonging to her as the new beds are being delivered on Monday & ond of the rooms holds her stuff. Uo until now she has'nt appeared. She told him she would call on Friday night but did'nt. He asked Mum & I if she does'nt come by Sunday night will we pack the stuff into our cars & leave it round in her front path. Secretly thats what we want to do.
So for now my shitf of duty for looking after him are a Fri, Sat & Sunday morning. It has been a doddle. If he wants he can go up to Mums for lunch or I can make him something in his own house. at tea time if he does'nt go uo either Mum or Dad wi bring his dinner down. After carers have been at 8pm & put him to bed Mum will come & get him his night time medication, turn everything of & look all doors & windows. Mum & I are gojng to do this week about between us.
My brother even looks a lot happier now that he can see things taking shape. He was to be rid of alk her ideas & put his own mark on the place..
In a couple of weeks time he has decorators comming to paint the whole house inside from top to bottom. He is akso getting the Kitchen Doctor out to getvall new cupboard doors & worktops etc
It will be like a new kichen.
He has asked me to take him to a hospital appointment on Monday afternoon. One which she kept putting off because she did'nt feel like going. How selfish & petty is that? & its fir his eye as he can hardly see out of it at all. He has to get an injection into it. Give me the creeps thinking about it but he says its just a bit uncomfortable.
I even feel nice & relaxed gojng into his house as she made me feel uncomfortabld & unwelcome.
We have been having a good bit of banter between us.
I will go up in the morning for 8.45 for carers arriving at 9.00am to shower him, dress him & get him into his wheelchair fir the day. I will probably just stay forvthe day until its time for us both to go to Mum & Dads for Sunday dinner. Really looking firward to that.
Thank you for wanting to have an uodate on our progress on looking after him.
Luv & Hugs