I have just moved in with my partner and my daughter and her fiancé as i needed to move from my 1 bed house where i have fallen too many times and found myself so scared that if i fell i would lie there for days and no one would find me. So we have all chipped in together me not so much as my benefits have now halved which means even more of a struggle. It was the only way for my partner and me to live together i have been with him for over 3 years now he is deaf and suffers from a type of agoraphobia/space phobia he works as an architects technician but his problems are that he can only travel or drive to very small areas close to where we live which can be quite restricting for the last year i could only see him every other weekend as i had to go and pick him up as he wasn't able to drive to where i lived but we got through it. However, his mum met me 4 times 3 years ago and for some reason instantly took a dislike to me on our first meeting she has slated almost all of her family and friends so i guess i realised what type of person she was anyway. But thought she would accept our relationship in time but this has got worse. One big problem is she lives in Swanage which my partner is finding the journey much too difficult at the moment and because i am not welcome down there then i can't drive him i even offered to take him and go and sit in a cafe or on the beach with my kindle whilst he visited but he said no way. We have lived together for one week now and he received a letter from her yesterday saying how evil i am and how she hasn't seen him in 3 months at the weekend we went to see his father who lives in the opposite direction of Wimborne (my partner can't drive there either) we went as his niece was in a singing competition and we bumped into his dad and youngest brother and his partner. On the way home i commented that if it got back to his mum it would cause problems. That evening he had a text from his other brother who lives near his mum and is supposed to suffer from depression but his is more an attention thing he loves everyone to be watching him takes part in plays and travels all over the place but cannot face work. This text was basically saying to my partner if you can get to wimborne swanage is not much further (well it is) what he seems to have not thought is that i was the one doing the driving he has also taken a disliking to me with his mother and called me names. How can these people judge me on 4 meetings 3 years ago. I have enough to deal with without the aggro that they are causing me. I just don't understand why they can't just leave us alone his mum is adamant that i don't make him happy well how can she tell that from 4 meetings. She visits poole several times a week but has never visited my partner he has spent 10 years since his divorce living in a room and now he has the whole of a bungalow to do his DIY on and take advantage of a whole house not just a room. Even the letter writing is an insult to me and it hurts to think someone thinks that of you. As it is i am not sleeping the pain has been worse obviously from the move and doing too much and this is just adding to the stress of everything else i have to deal with day to day. Ok sorry to go on rant over.
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