I've just had the most awful shock . Last year my first ever serious boyfriend got in touch via face book. I was 15 and he 17 . I hadn't seen him for 30 years . He was just 49.
His mum died last month and I hadn't heard from him for a while , I went to his face book page to send him a message and there is a message there from his brother to say he died on August 9th .
RIP Mark , you're free from pain now. 
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Oh Helen, I am so sorry to hear about this. It must be an awful shock for you especially as you'd only recently become reacquainted. My goodness he was no age at all.
Give yourself time to get over the shock, take it easy and have some me time. Take care and as you say he is at peace now. Bless you.
What a terrible shock for you, such a tragedy to die at such a young age.
I suppose it goes to show facebook has it's uses.
Best wishes
Julie xx
Thanks both , yes a huge shock. His mum died last month and I sent a message of condolence. Didn't hear from him so thought I'd give him some time to grieve and leave him in peace.
I had no idea he was so ill . We chatted quite a bit on FB over the last year , catching up on things .
He used to be so full of life and such a nice guy . It's so sad.
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Hi helen i am sorry you had a shock .. I am aware this can cause a relaps or you might not look after your self in this sad time
so i would like to say be good to yourself ..
gentle dyslexic hugs
oh dear i am so sorry to hearthat but at least you managed to speak to him last year when he got in contact with you so thats good
it is a shame though
my daughter went to a memorial day yesterday it was a fun football match and fun day in honour of a 19 year old lad and 18 year old girl who were killed 6 weeks ago when a car they were travellling ing crashed and the driver their friend survived
my daughter said it was very good but very sad as the lads mum went on the pitch and did the 1st kick of the ball
but again so young like your x
never mind you will have totreasure the memories of him and think about thegood times you had
love to you diddle xxxx
My goodness what a terrible shock for you may he rest in peace and may you memories remain happy and strong hugs x gins
My condolences.
Fly my love fly fre
Do not wait for mef
Tho I grieve
I firmly believe
You now have no pain
Farewell till we meet again
Helen no words can express how deeply sorry i am for you.its such a shock.and i hope you hace lots of good memorys of him to hold onto.
My thoughts are with you and his family.all best and lots hugs xx
Oh Helen Im so so sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts and prayers going out to you and his family at this sad time. Please take care of yourself over the next few weeks because as others have said a shock like this can often result in a flair up. Remember your fibro family are here if you need to talk. God bless X Dixiex
Thanks for all the comments. Had a sleepless night and quite a few tears as my mind took me back down memory lane.
I'm going to chose to remember him as that strong , handsome 17 year old that I knew back then, and though my heart aches with regrets I know it must be so much worse for his family who are still grieving also the loss of his mum last month .
I'm glad we had the chance to talk again in recent months , we got to straighten a few things out and also to catch up on 30 years of news.
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Hello Helen I am so sorry for your loss I know it won't mean much to you but bumped into an old boyfriend who also as it turns out dated one of my best friends from high shcool he gave me a big shock she had passed away at only 36 years old leaving a baby girl that it seemed nobody wanted she wasn't his and her parents didn't want her but as luck would have it a great aunt and uncle took her in, I can tell you it felt as though I had been punched in the chest, again I am really sorry for your loss big big gentle hugs. Sithy
That's exactly how I felt to be honest .
I know it's silly, and I know he won't read it but I've sent him an e-mail telling him how shocked and upset I am .
I don't want to sign into FB because I know I'll be expecting him to pop on for a chat .
My hubby has been wonderful and bought me a huge bunch of roses today . He's cooked dinner and let me have some time to get over the shock but I must admit I feel dreadful. My health wasn't great anyway and I have a hospital appointment to try and get to tomorrow so I really need some sleep tonight . I can't see it happening .
I think you always keep a small part of your first love in your heart .
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Hi Helen,
Just goes to show we don't know what lies around the corner. At least you had the chance to straighten a few things out hun.
Know it was a shock and does take some time to process the info.
At least you have dearest hubby to look after you. Ppfftt, what life throws at us...it's what we don't see coming that knocks the stuffing out of us.
thoughts and hugs
jan xx
oh god helen,i am sorry to hear about your shock, i think that is a great idea sending a e-mail , wherever he is i am sure if you speak it outloud to him (maybe in your bedroom or somewhere you can be on your own),he will hear it wherever he is ,or put a record on(or if you have moved with the times! a c.d on ) of a tune you both liked , and find peace in the knowledge that he will be listening to it too, love ej
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