Not wanting visitors

[coops]

Today is my 3rd day post op, at home in my own little world, dreading the thought of people wanting to visit, but i have quite a few and handled it ok, the selfish thing is you forget people actually do like you even if you dont like yourself, how rude of me to not want visitors, we forget the nicer things in life because of our illness, ..

[Rach1977]

Hey, don't go blaming yourself for not wanting visitors!!! Of course people like and love you, however when you feel ill or post op it is normal to feel alone and have a lack of confidence etc. You can only go with how you feel!....and if people are real mates they will understand!!

Good luck with your recovery xx

[coops in reply to Rach1977]

thanks xx

[coops]

Thanks xx

[Abbeystead]

You're not alone. When you're not feeling well and are in pain you just can't be bothered. I've just committed the cardinal sin in my family. My grand-daughter gets married on Friday and there is no way I am going to be able to go as my pain is so intense. Have always put my family first but this is the first time I have ever put myself first and she,her sisters and my daugher just dont understand.So think this FM/ME/OA etc. could claim yet another victim by breaking my family up. Feel so guilty but am not prepared to push myself any longer. Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated,

Sorry,gone off the topic haven't I.

[Goodienuff]

I am exactly the same when I am ill, I would much rather just be left alone, I'd like to just go out deep into the jungle and 'lick my wounds' without having to make 'small talk' I especially HATE hospital visiting times, you sit round the bed for 90 minutes, talk about the weather, the news then, (thinks) OMG, is it over yet???

I never feel bad or left out if mine don't visit me every visiting time, I'm quite happy watching the soaps or doing puzzle books (I have really got into doing puzzles because at one point I thought I had alzheimers!! My memory was shocking, and where I was once great at quizzes etc., it seemed my brain wasn't functioning, so I do a few puzzles eaxh day just to wake the brain up.