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[Fibrofog]

Feeling down today. Didn't help yesterday with my mother peeing me off! I was handling it great for a while. Now it's getting to me. Could be because I've got all these things wrong with me, and I'm not important enough for her to come up and see me! Both of them are like that, I haven't even heard from my so called father for months!

And I've either got a throat infection or laryngitis, which of course not helping the fibro.

I'm not happy at all with my life. I'm not where I wanted to be.

I used to picture me having my own family (and doing a better job than my parents)

And having a job I loved thats what I used to imagine. My own fault really, made a lot of wrong choices in my life.

Would love the chance to do things differently. But I know that's not possible.

At least one thing. Because you lot are such an understanding bunch I feel comfortable about writing this kind of things down.

[Golfer15]

Hi Fibrofog, sorry you feel like this, I totally empathise, I feel the same as I feel my life is going nowhere. My sons have left home so my father role has changed, I had to give up work so Im no longer providing for my family and I have no ambition or motivation. Ive been having a change in fibro symptoms as I feel totally run down.Im always tired, I cant stop sweating and I keep going dizzy. Im having a general MOT at the doctors. But everything is `normal`.

They say there is nothing they can do! We just have to get on with it. Sorry I dont have any positive comments just that you arent alone. Take care of yourself.

David

[Fibrofog in reply to Golfer15]

Sorry to hear your having a bad time of it. Hope things improve at lest a bit for you. Take care x

[honeybug]

Sooo sorry sweetie. 🌿🌸🦋I understand. Sending my support and positive thoughts.

Much love and prayers sweetie.

EJ 🤗♥️🥰🙏🕊🌿🌸🦋🤝💕

[Fibrofog]

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[Gigiruth]

Hi FibrofogSorry to hear you are having a difficult time. Frustration when others dont deliver can take so much energy and with fibro you need a the energy you can get.

I hope you find some peace.

Look after you.

[Fibrofog in reply to Gigiruth]

Thank you x

[onebigvoice]

Hi Fibrofog, Sorry to hear what you think is wrong, I say this because the first thing I say, is , you have already stated where you would like to be which is great, this sets you a target. I know this is easy for me to say, but I know where you are coming from having a job that was paying big bucks, teaching, and every thing was great to be having Bi-lateral knee replacements that threw me on the scrap heap. But, like you lacked direction, now since you are at home is to look and see "what you want to do and where you want to be" Don't set unrealistic targets but there are people out their in support groups that can help you get That qualification you always wanted. Open university and from home certificates for most subjects can be funded by the government all you have to do is ask? The good thing about doing some of these courses at home its at your own pace. the satisfaction of completing them is brilliant, having helped people who thought they were untrainable, or not cleaver enough to do the course, in things like vet/horse equine studies, Engineering Apprentership because they were "to old" there are no limits. Think what you would like to do? a makeup course, Art, sport? and come back here and tell up what or which direction you want to go. ( This through the Job Centre) i.e. Join Unite the Union as they have a training and learning section even if you are unemployed, that gives reduced "subs" but talk to them they are great people, and easy to talk to as they will point you to the right direction.

Let us know.

[Fibrofog in reply to onebigvoice]

Thank you xx

[onebigvoice]

I am not trying to preach to you, its just I went through a dark patch, and tried to be some where else, if you know what I mean, and its not going to be easy by any stretch of the imagination as their is no quick fix. But you have to start some where, and that is to fix YOU. Just think about what is said here by others and get a piece of paper and a cup of tea, and list things YOU want to do. There are no rules to the first list, including being an "astronaut" try to think what you missed out on and would like to do. Like art, or make up, learning to type or short hand and become a personal secretary for some one. Try to limit to ten. But never stop at ten because some may be achieved after you complete the first stage.

You can become a bit pushy and say to companies near you I am doing a course and would like to have some hands on experience is it possible to be seconded to you to gain more experience, this can be done through JSP and should also be funded by them. Most companies I have contacted have rang to thank them for joining their employment as they have become valued members of the team.

If your not working, use your time to start on a " New Career"

[Yassytina FMA UK Volunteer]

It’s rubbish feeling low and with a throat infection on top you have a double whammy, this year I’ve had one throat after another and then husband kindly passed on chest infection 🤣3 weeks later I’m soooo tired and feel like life passing me by, Summer is my fav time of year so not getting outside is making me sad. I know you feel let down as we always think our nearest and dearest are gonna be the ones too give support , unfortunately that’s not always the case ☹️Yea good we can talk here as we are the ones that really understand,sending hugs xx

[Fibrofog in reply to Yassytina]

Thank you it means a lot. I feel a bit lighter at the moment as its all out in the open, I told my friends how much I was struggling and close to harming myself which I was scared about. And my friend this morning made me phone someone. So I phoned iapt. And feel better that everyone knows. It's a tough time though.

[Yassytina FMA UK Volunteer in reply to Fibrofog]

I am glad you have a lovely friend and yes important too open up, I hit an all time low about 5 years ago my best friend was brilliant as she still is today, she backed me and finding the right med changed things for me ,so I got there in the end, Keep the faith make sure you speak too your doctor or even the surgery’s practioner nurse ,I’ve found mine too be lovely and helpful sending lots of hugs xx

[Fibrofog]

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[Kalamazoo1]

Hi hun we all get down and annoyed with people , I know it’s hard and people don’t realise what we go through. Do you have any friends around you that can help to cheer you up , sending you big hugs and I hope things get better for you soon . Take care and stay safe xxx