who sleeps on thier own.

[topsy4758]

many years ago i moved out of the marital bed and moved into my own bed and room, i am lucky that our children have all grown up and flown the coop, so i was able to do this.

it not only improved my quality of sleep but my relationship with hubby has got better and better over the years. we both now have a good nights rest (unless pain disturbs me, which is very rare now) and its totally unheard of me going back to bed throughout the day, just half hour doze on the settee when im flagging and im fine again.

[Twiglet]

I sleep on my own in a super king sized bed!

Its pure luxury and it doesnt matter how much I wriggle about trying to get comfortable because there is no one to disturb.

Once in a while I sleep over at my partners or he here, and although I love the feeling of him being there I very rarely get more than a couple of hours for fear of disturbing him. Fortunately niether of us is interested in moving in together. So although it may seem like a strange set up to people on the outside( we have been together 5 years, are in our forties and niether of us ever married) we are happy like this.

[HELEN-PMA in reply to Twiglet]

Hi Twiglet...I agree with Christine, if the arrangement you have works, and makes you both happy, that is all that matters. Saying that, if you did ever consider living together....you could have separate bedrooms, and you would save a lot of money by only having one lot of bill's. The money you save, could take you on nice holiday's around the world !!! I know this could be a lot more complicated, if either of you own your properties, but it is worth thinking about it. Wishing you both happiness, whatever you you do. xx

[kraftyk8 in reply to Twiglet]

Good for you! I have tremendous respect for people who don't conform.

[HELEN-PMA]

Hi, Topsy...I moved into my own room a few years ago. My main reason for that, is because my husband has a bad snoring problem. We were keeping each other awake all night ! It is bliss, having my own bed and room. I do miss the closeness, but as you say, it doesn't put an end to our physical relationship. We can go to each other's rooms !! Saying that, it is the Fibro / Vulvodynia that has ruined a lot of elements of our sex life...not being in separate rooms !! He is a good, supportive man, we have been married for 35 years. Carry on enjoying your own bed Topsy, and a happy life with your hubby x

[HELEN-PMA]

Hi Christine...I am so sorry to read, that your dear husband passed away. My father-in-law, died of the same thing, and it is a horrible way to lose someone, especially someone you are so close to. Things must have been really tough for you to cope with, then and now ! The stress of it all, must have made your Fibro flare up ? And then you have lost your best friend, to talk to about it, and possibly any support he may have offered you. Having your own bed is nice, but sad because of the reasons, that you have it all to yourself. I'm sure he is still near you in spirit, which is a comforting thought. May he rest in peace. I hope that you can remember the good things about him and your time together, on this 12th anniversary. Gentle hug for you, and I hope your Fibro isn't being too unkind to you. Take care xx

[AriadneJones]

Hi there, I still sleep with my husband as my snoring keeps HIM awake. After years of being kept awake by him it's my turn. I do prefer to sleep with him but love the bed on my own too. Whatever keeps you and your half happy is the best thing for your relationship. I'm very lucky to have a wonderful husband even if he does snore!

[penny41]

hello

i am in a new relationship he snores and i fidget but he sleeps lol, i feel like hell after he has stayed here for a few nights, i use earplugs have done for a while, i need to pluck up courage to suggest seperate beds most of the time wish me luck,

[circuitrunner]

Would love to wake up with my bedding more or less in tact instead it looks as if I have had a fight with it all lol.

[Hidden]

yep i do got a partner but dont live together last time he came upstairs in mine was xmas eve so that a shame really but i move and am so disturbed at night it not fair on him to stay and 2 of us disturbed. But thank god he is understanding . you take care love and sft hugs diddle x

[azhelen]

I was giving meds to sleep at night it is what is used for the soldiers coming back from war with PTSD, as I do have that along with my Fibro.. it will have you sleep all night ..

[AlisonH]

My not being able to sleep with my husband because of extreme sensitivity of my skin, and sleep prblems eventually contributed to us splitting. But we stayed in contact for our daughter and hav a much better relatinship and more understanding between us so not all bad x