Feeling so weak

Why do I feel this condition is a punishment? I cry with pain . Stabbing pains hot burning areas of my skin swollen hands n sensitive fingers? I ask why am I being punished again today? What I have I done

[FRreedman]

If you believe in G-d, you have shown you are capable of taking the punishment, even if it is on behalf of someone else. Who knows what your reward will be? Whatever it is it had better be worth it!!

Seriously, if you are really in so much pain, you must contact your nurseline or GP. Remember pain is an indicator of something being wrong, rather like an alarm, once it goes off you turn it off and sort out what caused it to go off in the first place. There is no need, with the various analgesia around today, for anybody to be in that much pain.

[RayB]

I think most of us, go through that feeling at one time or another.

I stopped that mode of thinking a long time ago,, it didn't make the pain any less but at least I got my head on a little straighter!

It is a human thing to beat ones self up,, reflect,, search for reason to all.

Hopefully things will ease off for you soon, try not to get to stressed as it really makes the pain worse,,, other than that a darkened room with a dampened cloth,, few understand what we can go through and it really dose get to you as it's not for a day or a week like a flu but a way of life that is so unpredictable in so many ways.

[Hidden in reply to RayB]

Thankyou for that positivity. As I sit n reply I’m being stabbed in so many places miss fibromyalgia is really kicking in today ! N yes it’s stress . My head my ankles my knees hands n arms all feel so heavy for this body to function. My neck is so tense . For every word he said to me in my place of work meeting I wish he could step in my shoes zip up and feel like I do 24/7 xx

[RayB in reply to Hidden]

Believe me I've been there,, nursed my parents 24/7 for many years one with Alzhimers,, stress city. I just had to work on the stress,, start to realise what gets you going. Very slowly you can auctualy start pulling your self up before you get going and saying,,,, No I am not going to react as I am only hurting myself.

It's not easy at first but with practice you get better and it is probably one of the most usefull things I have did to prevent some of the pain.

Don't go expecting any understanding from others,, with most it just dosn't compute,, when you stop expecting understanding your less dissapointed with the attitude of many. As you say "step in my shoes" ,,,,, they can't do it as they have no reference and only experiance give that.

Mind you at times I would like to take a hammer to some peoples heads,,, purely for educatiuonal purposes you understand!

Best Wishes, Ray

[Hidden in reply to RayB]

That sounds so positive and just what I need right now. My Doctor is referring me to pain management too and I have a new drug to try I pray for some control xx

[moo196]

Have you tried the giving up diet coke and anything else with artificial sweeteners in yet? It stopped the pain in my hands within a couple of days.

Also consider wearing wrist braces for a few days perhaps?

[Hidden in reply to moo196]

Thankyou and I agree I think it is something I need to look at. I don’t drink a lot of coke but I do have flavoured waters especially cranberry & raspberry but I think they have lots of sugar alternatives. I only ever feel on the road to success if I have water only and during a flare I have no appetite and some how I feel better after a break from certain foods xx

[Bobbassett]

Hi hon,

I think that we all go through this trip of :-

“What have I done to deserve this?”

“Why me?

I certainly did.

Then one day, I thought, ”why not me?”

I considered the many people that I know who live with a wide range of health issues and they have to get on with it.

Fibro isn’t life threatening: it’s quality of life threatening! Big difference.

When I stopped beating myself up searching for the “why” it took me to the next level: working towards acceptance- for me, that was the hardest thing of all.

Life can be stressful enough without fuelling internal negativity.

Yes, there are days when I could weep with exhaustion and pain and sometimes a good cry can relieve some anxiety and distress.

I only allow tears if they are giving relief as that’s a positive thing. Self pity is negative and therefore not allowed.

There is no doubt that living with fibro is scary, unpredictable and challenging but after so many years I recognise that there is a strong link for me between emotional and physical well-being.

The less mashed the head, the less bashed the body !!!

It’s easier said than done to try not to let people get to you when they have no idea what you’re going through. I believe that people can only get to you, if you let them.

I hope that you feel less pain with the new medication and also feel calmer.

Take care

Jan xx

[Hidden]

I do the same, wonder what I did wrong for my husband to be taken so suddenly and cruelly and then be hit by fibro.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

That is so sad sorry to hear that Duble blow to you xx

[AllthatGlitters]

Hello I hope you are starting to feel a bit better. It’s really hard to cope with this illness at times and a flare comes out of nowhere. Look after yourself, I find heat helps, my bed and a good sleep xx

[Hidden in reply to AllthatGlitters]

It’s the lack sleepat 2.30 pm

[Broken4715]

Hi Pinkissmo, I understand your pain I think like this too like I did wrong in some former life, can I ask what you do as a distraction technique my techniques varie such as music on headphones or watching a subject I enjoy the trick is to get you out of your head the brains way to manage pain is distracting ever wounded why stubbing your toe will focus your pain response there it’s like a child wanting the next interesting thing so I give it something to focus on, lol i woffled a bit. Take care.

[Hidden in reply to Broken4715]

Hi I believe I try n connect to the unknown I spk to my mum spiritually n ask her why am I like this? Sometimes I then think of song n try find the answer in perhaps music 🎧 it’s the best way to deal with our mood swings n how miss fibro attacks back OMG if it’s a migraine I know Iv won if it’s my whole self Iv pushed her too hard xxx