i have just been searching the site due to recent increase in pain (knees/shoulders/back) and whether i could have fibromyalgia? i have had a very traumatic 2 1/2 years after the birth of my grandson, what should have been a very happy event turned into a nightmare. my daughter who is now 30 didnt tell anyone that she was pregnant, not even her friends knew, first anyone knew was when she went into labour, i delivered my grandson, he was so tiny, he was delivered whilst we were waiting for paramedics to arrive, daughter was taken to hospital with grandson, she had to have an operation to remove the placenta because it was not delivered naturally, she remained in hospital with grandson and whilst she was in social services became involved because ward staff felt she wasnt bonding with her son, instead of calling me to discuss the matter, from that moment on the whole family was under severe scrutiny, i am and have been a full time care for my 28 yr old son who has severe learning difficulties and my whole parenting skills were questioned, daughter who had grandson suffered severe post natal depression (perperal psychosis) something that i had suffered from after having her sister, it would appear that this is inherited but obviously my mother never discussed how she had been after she had had me, whilst daughter was being treated for her psychosis i looked after grandson as well as my son, social services were still around but not concerned about grandsons welfare, that came once daughter came out of the psychiatric ward, they just wouldnt leave us alone, always questioning everything she did, she may not have been the greatest mum, she loved her son, she just needed more help which social services wouldnt give her, it ended up with me having to choose between my son and grandson, obviously with already being a carer for son i couldnt take on the added responsibility of caring for grandson and daughter was also living with me at the time, the whole situation became intolerable, grandson now lives with his paternal grandparents miles away and we have contact with him every 2 months, something else that social services dictated, daughter had been having contact with her son 10 times a month up till him going to live with paternal grandparents, i totally feel that i have let her down but know that i did what i could, her father and i divorced quite a few years back and he occasionally has his son over, if it wasnt for the respite i receive on a regular basis i would never have time for myself. the whole experience has had an adverse effect on my health, there are days that i do not want to get out of bed and if it wasnt for my son i dont think i would be sat here now typing this, my dog hardly goes for long walks these days because it is a major effort going out of the front door, i have suffered panic attacks when ive just sat on the stairs and cried my heart out, ive tried going to my gp but really find it difficult to talk about how i am feeling right now, and right now i have pain in my shoulders, my lower back hurts and my knees hurt, i know i need to lose weight because even the shortest walk im getting out of breath, ive also been suffering with bloating in my stomach where it goes rock hard and is really uncomfortable so that has also affected my going outdoors, the list seems to be endless, i was never like this but feel that the experience of the last 2 1/2 years has something to do with it
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