Holiday heat

Lucky me and my partner we are off tomorrow for Glasgow and then on Tuesday we fly to Florida for 3 weeks, heat, heat and more heat - good for the body hope it makes us both feel better and gives a bit of pain relief to our Fibro.

One scooter ready for the flight and another one being delivered to the hotel for use over there, couldn't get the two of them booked on flight.

We must be mad to contemplate the roller coasters and other rides but why not - won't make any difference to the pain.

Wish I could take you all with me.

Hear

My best friend was diagnosed with cancer over a year ago and knows it is terminal, she asked to see me today before I went on holiday - she wanted to say goodbye as she doesn't think she will be here when I get back, I've known her over 35 years and can't believe I might lose her, anyone got any advice on how to cope with my grief?

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  • First of all I would like to wish you a very happy holiday. Your friend I feel sure would wish this for you also. As for coping with grief, well that is a very personal thing, just know we are here, many of us have experienced loss and can at least offer a listening ear. Lou xx

  • Thank you Lou x

  • Hi Scottish-piglet,

    I am in total agreement with Lou and wish you a very happy holiday although it may well be tinged with sadness, but try and hold on to the fact that she might just make it through unto your return. If however the worst does occur, you know you can come here for our support and advice. Grief is a very personal thing and everyone copes differently with it, there is really no one size fits all at such a time, but know we are here for you and I will certainly be sending lote of positive vibes to your friend, and also some for you during this rather difficult time.💞

    Foggy x

  • I also want to firstly wish you a happy holiday. I am so genuinely sorry to read about your friend and I want to wish all involved all the best. As lou and Foggy say, it is a personal thing and we all react differently in the face of adversity. If the worst happens whilst you are away and you struggle to cope on arrival home it may help to discuss some bereavement counselling with your GP.

    All my hopes and dreams for both of you.

    Ken

  • Wishing you a wonderful Holiday. Sorry to hear of your Friends situation. To share show Love & Concern. Is the most Wonderful thing you can give to your friend at this time. Sending Love & Prayers to All Concerned. Lol. XX

  • Thank you, I too have been praying and wish everyone a good day with minimal pain xx

  • Sorry to hear about your friend. Time is a healer. Hope you have a loveley time in florida i love it there i use to go every year but cant do it no more my favorite i love old town and down town disney x

  • So sorry to hear about your friend, she is a brave and thoughtful lady to have given the opportunity to say goodbye. She wants you to have a good holiday, she's let you 'make your peace' with the situation - so you must!

    I truely hope that you can go to Florida and have a fantastic holiday. I went to Florida for the first time when I was, ahem! - a bit on the mature side shall we say. I loved it on all the rides, I wouldn't have missed it for the world, have a fabulous time xxx

  • Hello,

    Oh dear, a time of such mixed emotions. Happy and excited about your forthcoming holiday. Words cannot adequately describe how you feel about your long time friend's health. How horrible for you.

    It must seem surreal, knowing what is to come and at the same time being with your friend like old times.

    Do not be tough on yourself. Take it one hour and one day at a time. Lean on your family and friends for support.

    Grief and the emotions associated with it are normal.

    My way of trying to deal with tragedy is to think of positive things. As a former Police Officer, I have witnessed so much tragedy over the years.

    If it were me, I would think that it was good that I had a chance to say the things that I wanted to say to my friend. I would look back on all of the good times that we had shared. If they were in pain and distress, I would be glad that they are no longer suffering. I would take comfort that their memory lived for as long as I would.

    I suspect that you will find your own way of dealing with such an awful experience.

    Please do not suffer in silence and do speak to your GP if you need their support.

    I wish you a wonderful holiday. My thoughts will be with you and your friend.

    Best wishes,

    Dave

  • Many thanks for your kind words - holiday so far been a disaster!

    Cancelled flight to Gatwick meant getting train, late into hotel - usual 2hrs sleep and once at airport holiday flight delayed at least 2 hours.

    My partner and I are both in agony, we only have 1 mobility scooter with us and he needs it more than me.

    My friend is more like my sister after all the years we have known each other, we have gone over our history with the typical stories of mischief and mayhem but maybe that makes it worse. I'm trying not to dwell on it and Fibro fog making me feel like I'm in a bubble.

    Wouldn't want anyone else to go through this.

    Hugs to all xx

  • I hope that the holiday gets better for you.

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