Lonely

[larissa]

Hi all,

Today is one of those days where I am feeling a bit sorry for myself.

I am usually a positive person and try to concentrate on all the good things in life , no matter how small.

But, I am feeling quite low today . I have been feeling quite lonely for a while now . I have a husband and two grown up children and one really good friend . As I can only work 8 hrs a week now and my friend works long hrs I hardly see her and people at work I find hard to connect to on a deep level.

I actually like my own company but it would be nice to have another friend to spend time with once in a while!

I found my local support group really depressing !

I've been unwell for about 5 yrs now and im sure you all understand how that goes ! Thankyou to all who read this and listening to me whinge lol

Any similar stories ?????

Bye for now xx

[tulips123]

The time of year doesn't help either does it? Do you sometimes look at people smiling, laughing etc. and wonder why? My laptop is playing up, but hopefully we can 'chat' a bit if it would help. Tulip xx

[larissa in reply to tulips123]

thankyou x

[tulips123 in reply to larissa]

Apologies larissa, ate dinner and nodded off. Still recovering from Christmas day. I hope you're feeling a bit better. I will login tomorrow if possible, see if you're about. My girls will come at some stage, it's my birthday and I'm not sure how the day will pan out. This time of year is pretty quiet on this website, but I'm sure it will liven up again soon. Many people here who can relate to how you feel, sense of isolation etc. In need of distraction, a good old fashioned rant or a giggle.

I hope you have a good night, sweet dreams. Tulip xx

[larissa in reply to tulips123]

Hope you had a lovely Birthday x

[tulips123 in reply to larissa]

Hi larissa. Just had a nice meal and yes it has been a good day thank you. All best wishes for a better new year than the 1 we've just had! Tulip xx

[Hidden]

I am very like you, I have my husband and my 2 girls. I work part time and my friends have practically all disappeared. It can sometimes be difficult to stay positive but in the end, we do. I sometimes have to take a step back and look at what I have. What I have come to realise is that I do have fibro friends who are willing to listen and advise if its needed. I have a small family, but they care about me

This time of the year seems to bring on the blues, we will blame it on shorter days. Just remember, there is always someone here that will listen, that's what good friends are for

Hoping 2015 is kind to you and your family

[larissa in reply to Hidden]

I have learnt to have gratitude for the little things , and that usually helps and I believe part of my toolkit for keeping positive. I would love to have some fibro friends but atleast I can rant or whatever on here ! I am not that close to my family ,apart from my children and partner .Thankyou for your kind words x

[Hidden in reply to larissa]

Sorry, I actually meant the fibro friends I have on this forum. Some are better than having a friend sitting with you

[michaelb62]

Hi Larissa,

I have been feeling exactly the same i have one good friend and thats it she lives not too far from me i have found the whole christmas etc really hard to deal with this year. I have no partner as i was dumped in July after a 4 year relationship. I try and stay positive but i have hit rock bottom again never thought i would ever feel this low again. My pain has increased drastically over the last couple of years i have had fibro for around 26 years now. My friend also has fibro but she manages to do a lot more than me sometimes its like she wants to have the same whatever i do she copies which can get quite frustrating as well. I have some fantastic friends that i have made on Facebook which is great but its not like sitting down and having a chat and a coffee or whatever. So i totally understand how you feel. I am unable to work i really wish i could but with my hands hips knees and back affected it is impossible i cant even sit for long without the pain hitting hard. Never think you are whingeing we all need to say things at times and its better out than in. Sending you a huge virtual hug. xx

Jackie

[larissa in reply to michaelb62]

Thankyou xx

[TheAuthor]

I am so sorry to read that you are feeling this way, and I genuinely hope that you can find some resolution and relief to your loneliness. I was wondering how you felt about taking up a hobby? Some hobbies can be very social and very therapeutic? It may help?

I want to wish you all the best of luck.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

[magnetta]

Hi Larissa

Sorry to hear you are feeling lonely.

Maybe you could try some kind of class/group? If pain/fog doesn't allow for something like Pilates, language, art etc, what about a meditation or mindfulness class? You would meet people, get out of the house and be doing something for yourself, a chance to be selfish hehe. Another idea is volunteering - there are lots of other types that don't involve standing in a shop getting sore... I know cats protection Bristol have a fundraising meetup in a local pub!

Just some of my thoughts!

Happy new year!x