Fatgue

Hi Im sick and tired of being sick and tired! Weekends - catch up on sleep, Part time job sleep/rest all afternoon. Washing, housework - beyond all redemption. Ill not even mention DIY decorating. Two children that are missing out on their Mum. Weeping as I write this. Im usually upbeat and struggle on but it just gets sooooo overbearing. Yearn for times when house work was done and a skip out shopping.Doctor that could not care so stopped going, haven't got the energy to change. Sorry just feeling sorry for myself, rant over. Gentle hugs x

18 Replies

oldestnewest
  • hi Margaret, sending you a gentle hug (( :) ))

    I know you don't have the energy to change doctors, but you deserve better.

    do you have a consultant? maybe see if you get an appointment.

    ask friends, family, about their gp's to help you choose and change.

    regards,

    hamble :)

  • Thanks for the advice and hug AND a chance to offload lol xxxxx

  • Aww love it horrlble having one them days I know were your coming from ive had a full week x lol what yo do so much but body and mined says no lol xxx big hugs x

  • Thank you for hugs hope you feel better soon xxx

  • U to x its this time nite for me I can never sleep x its weird x last nite the pain was so bad x its not as heavy tonite but cant sleepxx Iits a weird old thing to have lol xxx

  • Hi margaret550

    I am so sorry to read about how you are struggling and suffering at this time. Please believe me when I say that we all know how you feel and what you are going through.

    Please feel free to have a rant on here whenever you want! Please take care of yourself.

    All my hopes and dreams for you

    Ken x

  • Sending warm hugs .... Horried when it is all to much for the brain to deal with. X.

  • Thank you Aura, Sending gentle hugs x Margaret

  • Lots of gentle hugs from me,

    Sue xx

  • Thankyou so much Sue and to you too x Margaret

  • Hi Margaret, sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed, what helped me was to let go of it all step back and look at it with a understanding of the limitations this condition puts on you. Turn housework into a fun thing for the children, I had a chart in the kitchen, they got a gold star for each job they did during the week and were rewarded with pocket money every saturday, I stuck to my guns if they did not do a job they had a forfeit, so it was not long before they happily did there jobs, it also teaches them about life in the real world. If you have an OH try to discuss things with him and devide the other jobs between you. How about paying an ironing company to do your ironing once a week, look at what is out there to take the pressure off and then you won't feel so overwhelmed. Stress makes the fibro worst, so try to alleviate it a bit. As someone who has had fibromyalgia for many year's it took me a long time to let go and reorganise my life, its not giving up, its about caring for yourself as well as those around you, just hold onto what is important in life ie. The family, forget the things that don't matter ie. Decorating! Hope I have not over stepped the mark, just sharing my own experiences, hope it helps. Gentle hugs.

  • Hi Sophie, absolutely not. Thank you for all your words of advice and encouragement x Margaret

  • Hello Margaret

    My fibro started while I was pregnant and that was 28 years ago. My sons grew up to be smart caring well adjusted young men. OK never took them to the beach or played football and that still makes me sad but we did spend a lot of time together.

    Gentle hugs.

  • Hi Margaret,I really do feel for you.The times I have also said I'm sick and tired of feeling sick and tired!It's horrible the way fibro robs you of your independence capability and zest for life.This forum is the exact place to come for a rant,and also for support.I hardly ever post (just haven't had the mental energy) but I read other posts every day,and so many times they have kept me going.There are some real comedians on her,some great encouragers,and often,so many who really 'get it'.The hard lesson we all have to learn,I feel,is accepting our limitations,without giving up and letting these restrictions break our spirit.We still have so much to offer,and it helps me to acknowledge this daily.Sending you lots of love and gentle hugs.Where possible take some me time,give yourself plenty of TLC....yes you are worth it!!Children are far more accepting of situations than we give them credit for.They love you,you are their mum.God bless you Elaine x

  • Elaine thanks so much for the lovely response and encouragement! I hope all goes well with you and thank you so much for taking time to write this Lots of gentle hugs x Margaret

  • You have just described my week to a T. I am currently "resting" upstairs while family life is carrying on downstairs without me! I have a 7 year old daughter and a 3 year old son, and an amazing husband who keeps it all together! I feel it wouldn't make a difference if I was here or not! . I hope you find a solution, I am going back to GP's soon and also going on to a new diet where you eat all natural products and take vitamins etc. every day. Fingers crossed something works. Sending gentle hugs and a tissue to wipe your tears. X

  • Aww Thats lovely thursty, Thank you. I am a single parent but my children are 16 and 14 so they can sort of look after themselves although my 16yr old son has Aspergers and can be a handful at times. I do feel so sorry for you with children of such a young age but I am so pleased for you that you have such a wonderful husband. Im sure that on good days you make up for time lost with the kids and I 'm sure they love their Mother very much. Have a cuddle with them in bed, that will help ad reassure them and I'm sure it will help you too! I hope your further treatments work for you Thank again for taking time out to reply, God bless xxx

  • Hi things do get on top of you, and stress makes you more tired. This I have found out. Funny I am a cleaner working self employed and do so much for others, but forget myself. It is hard trying to keep everyone else happy. Take care of yourself that is what matters. xx

You may also like...