Fibro ruins lives Aparently it's not all about me !!!

[Huskybike]

Well what a cracking weekend had a shouting match with my mother then my sister came round to finish me off. Leaving my husband today and disappearing forever

[crop]

That sounds awful. Poor you. What happened? X

[Ginsing]

Wht are you doing are you leaving your husband as well - I am so sorry - what are you going to?

Do pause and have a cuppa and re think your position - deep breathing - think slowly and carefully life is too short

message me if you need to talk xxgins

[ladytelita]

Holy moley! Sounds like you've had a hell of a time of it. Are you sure you're in the best place right now to consider your actions? I left my ex back in 1999 but gave it plenty of time before making the move, especially since I had two very young children at the time. It really is important to know you're doing the right thing for yourself. Do you have somewhere to go?

Please keep yourself safe.

P.

[Huskybike in reply to ladytelita]

Hi ladytalita yes been thinking about it for a while going to stay in a hotel for a couple of nights see how I feel x

[Lucyhobbit]

It sounds like you're having a terrible time, but please don't just disappear. Find yourself somewhere safe to stay and let yourself heal (we're all here if you need to chat) before you make any major decisions. I can't imagine how you are feeling but know that we all care about you, and we understand fibro more than any non-fibro person ever can.

[jillylin]

Gentle hugs

Jillyxx

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Take care xxx

[Huskybike]

I'm reading your messages and I feel so humbled, you are all so amazing. I'm still at home as I love my husband but can't take anymore from my family, this is all due to the fact I said I can't look after my step grandaughter

[scareymary]

sorry your not in a good place right now, think first xxx

[beckyglen]

I hope you are ok! I know how hard it can be when your family don't understand and keep causing you stress and upset. I stopped talking to my parents about 6 months ago because they were making my fibro worse by causing problems all the time. I hope you can sort things out and do what is best for you. I read a book about "toxic relationships" a while ago and it was very helpful.

Gentle hugs to you xxx

[butterflygirl1]

Oh poor sweetie I hope things get easier for you soon sending you gentle hugs xx

[Hidden]

Greetings Huskybike,

Only you know your limits and if you have to say no to something, say no. If your family don't understand it's their problem, not yours. Lookng after children with fibro must be challenging enough, but it must be worse when they are not yours.

Sounds like you need to take some time for yourself. We all need to sometimes, healthy or not. It's a shame we can't choose family. I don't communicate with lots of mine anymore (massive family) but my health comes first, not babysitting or cooking for others etc. Many of us can't do the things we used to, and if they can't understand, then tough!

I don't mean to sound harsh, but I've lived it and I've decided it's their issue, not mine. And I'm sure you are loved very much by your husband and others. You'll be in my prayers. Be as strong as you can be and please don't ever feel guilty for having to say no.

Take care and be very blessed.

[Hidden]

Huskybike, Yes, please sit and drink a cup of tea..

managing disease and managing kids is quite possibly more than you

can manage right now..Gins right just concentrate on breathing and simply

say "my hearts not in it or I am trying to be well" and leave it..