**Miscarriage Trigger** - lowest may be I’ve ever been!

[NisaK]

hello lovely ladies, I have posted here before and soo many answers and suggestions have always been such amazing support. I had an embryo transfer in January and we got to know we were pregnant and that too with twins… oh the happiness I cannot explain. Days of talking about how things will be with twins already starting to think of twin products and then comes 9 weeks and I had a miscarriage (quite a painful one too). Iv been feeling soo lost.:: the feeling of getting pregnant with twins from a single embryo transfer, thoughts of will I ever get soo lucky again are just eating my soul… just needed to post here for some support. Shattered is an understatement…

[Bluecheeseplz]

Oh I am so incredibly sorry. Sending all of my love. It is so hard to have any hope after loss, I completely understand. You will find it again, but don't push yourself to get there. You have had a huge heartbreak (to say nothing of the big physical toll) and you need to let yourself feel how you feel and to be taken care of - I hope you have a lot of support? I know there are no words to say that help, but we are all here with you. Rest, take as much time off work as you can, and ask for as much help as you need. If you need to talk, here any time 🩷

[NisaK in reply to Bluecheeseplz]

Thank you soo much hun…. Your words have really given me a feeling of strength, I have the most supportive husband and family ♥️

[Bluecheeseplz in reply to NisaK]

🩷🩷🩷 I'm so glad you've got good support 🩷

[Millbanks]

Hello lovely,

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's utterly heartbreaking. 💔

I had an mmc last year and had really strong HCG tests so was very shocked to see the growth had stoppped.

What I would say is take some time - talk to some people - do some fun things. It hurts now, and it always will but it will get easier.

When you are ready, try to remember that although the pregnancy didn't continue, it did start - this is a good sign. The chances are that your twins had some chromosomal abnormalities that meant they weren't for this world. That won't necessarily happen again. It is very scary going through another transfer after loss, but you will find the strength because you very much want to.

Sending love xx

[NisaK in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you soo much for your kind response. I wish this time on no woman ever… but yes this time too shall pass, and I still have all the hope in the world deep down in my heart (which currently is broken) but it will mend I have faith ♥️

[Catlover89]

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry this has happened to you. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. Sending you hugs and lots of love ❤️ xxx

[WHeatherW]

I'm so so sorry. Sending lots of love xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi. To get to none weeks then to siffer the loss of both your little pne is just too much. You will always remember them, how could you. You will try again and hopefully all will go as it should . Thinking of you. Diane

[Elmo13]

Just wanted to say I’m so sorry for your loss. I know what a dark time this must be, and hope you can just focus on yourself.

Wishing you lots of strength. Xx

[Endofitall]

sending love at this awful time. I’m really sorry for your loss. I found the worst girl gang ever (book and podcast) and Zoe Clark Coates books very helpful to help with my grief process. Glad you have good support. Take care xx

[Anisha29]

I'm so sorry. It is a really hard journey. You need to take some time out for you to grief and rant if possible. Also do fun things that make you smile again.

Once you start to heal, you can start focusing on your next journey. Also talk to you to your consultant. They might be lesson learnt from this loss so they can suggest tweaks to your next treatment.

[BenjitheG]

Hi, sending the biggest of hugs your way. I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I’ve just experienced my first miscarriage after many years of negative tests, it’s so hard when you start imagining a different future. I have found comfort in the stories I have read from the Miscarriage Association especially those on an assisted journey. Never feel your alone, there are others that can help and support you.

Wishing you all the very best moving forward. Xxx

[Kilk22]

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. It’s truly heartbreaking. I found it comforting in knowing I wasn’t alone when this happened to me even though I nor you would wish this on anyone. I two found out I was pregnant with twins from one embryo transferred (my only embryo that made it to blast) I couldn’t believe it. Unfortunately I lost both my girls at 5 months pregnancy due to my waters breaking early (unknown reason why this happened but I think it was an infection) they’re were no chromosome abnormalities, they were perfect. 💔 I had to give birth naturally and it was the most traumatic experience of my life. I still get flashbacks and shivers when I think of it all. Horrendous. My advice is take your time, you have a lot of healing to do. Go to counselling, meditate, cry, talk about it as much as you need to. Exercise when u feel ready, any movement will help move the trauma out of your body. 🙏🏼 You have to sit in the grief unfortunately until you feel ready to heal and maybe try again. To give you hope I am currently 32 weeks along with one precious baby. It has been an extremely anxious pregnancy and I am still so nervous but I’m hopeful 🙏🏼 Believe it and pray for it , that you will one day have your newborn in your arms 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Sending you a massive hug. 💜

[NisaK in reply to Kilk22]

Hello hun, honestly your message gave me soo much hope… I really am sorry for the loss you went through, losing the twins at 20 weeks… I can’t even begin to imagine.. but look how beautiful your light at the end of the tunnel was… all the prayers for your safe delivery!!! ♥️♥️

[Kilk22 in reply to NisaK]

Absolutly 🥰 and thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼