Secondarily infertility. Trying for a sibling from the same set of embryos my 3.5 year old son came from. I’ve had two FETs of grade A embryos and both have failed. I will be 40 in a few months.
Well, I am an example of why you shouldn’t test early… I was convinced my body felt “different” and it had worked.
Period arrived this morning. I am gutted and I just don’t know what I can do to support implantation.
We have two embryos left and then I think we’ll stop and try to accept we’re not destined for two children.
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I'm sorry to hear about your BFN. I have been in a similar situation (also trying for a sibling with a nearly 3 year old)
We had 5 embryos left after our successful transfer (6th try) back in 2022. We did one transfer in November 2023 which was BFN, another in February 2024 which ended with a verrrry faint positive but then went negative the next day, and did a third in April 2024 - this time I took doxycycline, probiotics and also upped my steroid dose by 10mgs. This one worked (although sadly ended in an mmc).
Have you tried looking at your immune panel? Often after a first pregnancy your immune system works harder and can impact implantation. I needed steroids the first time round, but this last time I needed a higher dose - so my immune system was clearly working overtime.
Might be worth looking in to. I would also recommend thinking about your uterus environment - especially if you had a c-section - as it can harbour non-symptomatic infections that you just don't know about. After taking Doxycycline (which is an antibiotic) we did have success so I wonder if there was something there. My clinic wanted me to do an Emma / Alice biopsy but I didn't want any more nasty procedures so said no.
We have 2 left and will be trying again in the next couple of months but after these 2 we're calling it a day - I am so done with it all.
Sorry you’re experiencing similar. Thank you for the tips on what else to consider before diving into another transfer. I’m a bit pissed at my clinic for not wanting to investigate more before the 2nd. They just said, it’s probably down to genetics and luck.
I had a vaginal birth. I haemorrhaged after placenta not all coming away but I was reassured no scarring
How many cycles have you done? We’ve only done one back in 2020. I don’t think I could go through another and we’d really like to move with our life financially too.
I am finding the whole secondary infertility thing baffling - my clinic is the same - they don't seem to have any ideas as to why it wasn't working - as usual I ended up doing loads of research myself....
We did 4 egg collections in total - and 9 transfers. Its a lot. I am done too. xx
Just read your bio. You have certainly been through it. It’s so unfair and none of it makes sense. Hoping either of the next once’s are successful for us. ❤️
Sorry to jump on this but can I ask you more about Doxycycline? Did this have to be prescribed? I've had two failed rounds since having my son via csection. X
Hi my ideas would be to check Fallopian tubes arent blocked and allowing toxic fluid to drip into the womb, possibly causing embryos not to implant? Perhaps a hysteroscopy o check out womb and biopsy the lining . Blood thinner to prevent clotting and encourage blood flow. Low dose prednisolone, a sterood, to boost immune systen, so body accepts the embtyo as alien. Perhaps luubion. IM progesterone. Obviously nott all needed, but can be discussed if you want hope you have plenty of support around you just now, while you recover. Thinking of you. Diane
Thank you. I just read about this leakage on tik tok. I’ve never had a hysteroscopy. The consultant had said that at my age there was no point but now I think there is.
In about 2011 whole living in Asia I had a case of BV which I avoided getting help for for months. I increasingly suspect this could have called blocked tubes. And I would feel better knowing more about this.
Before having my son they also saw I had a polyp. I want to know more about that.
Thanks for the advice. Today is a sore one but I’m being looked after by my lovely family. X
Oh my heart aches for you too reading this. Thank you for the message. The negatives hit me so hard. Feels like a death some months. My lovely mum has been propping me up today and looking after my son but people who haven’t experienced it just don’t know what to say huh?
I have just sent our clinic a big list of questions so will update with what they say. I need more answers before I go splashing another few grand next time.
Good on you. I don’t know if we can go through another egg collection process. Emotionally or financially.
We've got two embryos left, so will do another FET. But emotionally & financially cannot do it after the next one. Have you any embryos left?
My clinic weren't the most helpful & said it was a numbers game 🙃 not sure how much I believe that. Let me know if your clinic have any pearls of wisdom ❤️.
It's just so hard isn't it. I feel guilty for feeling this was as I already have my son, but my heart just yearns for another baby. All I keep thinking about is all the firsts I'll never experience again, such a punch in the gut xx
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