feeling so low after negative test

[Ytrewq123]

hi everyone, I’m sorry in advance for what is probably a depressing post, but I know people on here might understand me. Had a negative test today after a nice holiday where I actually ovulated (once in a blue moon), and was full of hope that this would be the time everyone always goes on about to us “oh just go on holiday, relax, and it’ll happen”. It didn’t happen and it doesn’t work like that. I now have another transfer to gear myself up to over the next few weeks, and I can’t bear the thought of going through that 2 week wait after having several CPs in the past (but I know how lucky it is to even have that opportunity at all so I feel bad saying that). How can I pick myself up again? I do have support around me but there’s only so much people can say to help when they haven’t been through it xx

[Anxiousintrovert]

so sorry… just wishing you the best of luck for the transfer

[Ytrewq123 in reply to Anxiousintrovert]

Thank you so much xx

[Milo2011]

So sorry to hear that. I know the feeling as my test was negative this morning as well and I have no other embryos left to transfer. I either have to take up a whole cycle again but not entitled to NHS funds so need to weigh out my options. Wishing you best of luck with your next transfer 🤞🏼

[Ytrewq123 in reply to Milo2011]

I’m so sorry to hear that, sending you love and strength, and it is truly difficult decisions - I hope you are able to come to the right decision for you xx and I hope my message didn’t come across in any way blasé about my transfer, I know I am so lucky to even have that opportunity when others might not xx

[Positive20]

Hi ladies. I definitely can relate to this as I’ve had a number of transfers that were unsuccessful before success with IVF. I use to just use distraction techniques, booking a meal, booking a holiday, buying myself a nice gift I want or even a night in with a good movie and my favourite sparkling beverage. I just did whatever we could afford at the time. That helped me get through it.

We were arranging a short city break and I found a 5 star hotel with champagne breakfast. We normally would have never spent money on a hotel like that but I just made the booking and justified it by the fact I’d felt like I’d put myself through hell and back. It was worth every penny and I loved having breakfast every morning with a little champagne for a treat.

All these things don’t make life perfect but they are just what helped me through as well as booking in counselling sessions, talking to my support network.

I really feel for both of you in this positon, the only thing I will say…..when it works it’s the best thing ever and we’ll worth the pain but it’s so hard to see the light at the end.of the tunnel. I wish you both all the luck in the world. Xx

[Ytrewq123 in reply to Positive20]

Thank you so much  Positive20 for your kind message, distraction techniques do seem to be key.. (a 5* champagne breakfast sounds so wonderful!) your last bit made me teary, I will hold on to remembering that xx

[Milo2011]

thank you for the kind words. You didn’t not sound blasé about the transfer at all… it’s your luck and much deserved. Keeping my fingers crossed for you xx