Close Friend Pregnant

[Aardvarks]

I’m not very well at the moment, I have a stinking cold and just woke up.

We were supposed to go to a friends house for pizza last night but, because I’m sick (and the risk that it may be covid), we didn’t go.

Anyway, I just checked the group chat and saw a picture of their pregnancy announcement (which they must have done last night).

I am absolutely thrilled for them. I am. But it is bittersweet.

I have surgery planned on 22nd November for my severe endometriosis. I am likely to lose an ovary. I am scared that I won’t ever have a baby of my own.

I woke up my husband and told him about the baby. I requested a hug, which I got, then he grumbled and went back to sleep.

I’m feeling quite alone.

[Jess1981]

Big hug's pregnancy announcements are the hardest on this journey it puts into focus what you do desperately want.

We had a 7 year struggle and all our friends and family were having babies it was unbelievably difficult. I also have endometriosis and after my third lap within 13 months ( this time with an endo surgeon) I conceived my first daughter Francesca who turned 3 in June. I naturally conceived her which before my endo was diagnosed wouldn't have been possible. We then tried for a sibling ( mad I know) we suffered a late loss of our second daughter Amelia at 20 weeks and 2 more early losses ( already had a chemical before Francesca) and had our third daughter Eliza in February. I was 40 having her! So much older than you are.

I hope this can offer some hope in difficult times that miracles do happen. And I'm sure you will get your miracle baby ❤️ Having the surgery is giving you the best chance ❤️ Xx

[Aardvarks in reply to Jess1981]

Thank you, this has made me feel much better xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Aardvarks. So sorry you are feeling poorly just now and hope you soon feel loads better, I can fully understand your shock at receiving the news re your friend's pregnancy, but there's not much we can do about that, except for to wish her well with a healthy, ongoing pregnancy. Just remember that you are on your way! You are to have surgery to give you your best chance, and even if you have to progress to IVF, you are doing everything possible to have your much wanted family too. You may feel alone just now, but you have your husband, who I am sure supports you loads - when he is awake, bless him. If you can, look forward to your surgery, as it is the next stage up the ladder. i do hope all goes well and wish you a speedy recovery. Diane

[Aardvarks in reply to DianeArnold]

thanks Diane… the ‘when he is awake’ really made me chuckle 😂

[Anim88]

it is a lonely time for many of us. it's hard for others to understand exactly what it feels like when you hear about your loved ones pregnancy announcements. super complicated to process