Hi I've not posted here for a while and am just getting ready to start a second cycle of IVF. I've managed to stay fairly sane recently and then yesterday I got a call from my best friend who is pregnant after only 3 months of trying at 35.
I really am so happy for her and her husband, but it's so hard when this cuts into you and then you feel guilty about feeling so shit. We've been TTC for 2 and a half years and I've really tried so hard to be healthy, cutting out booze, eating healthily, taking vitamins and herbs, while she just stopped smoking about a month ago and has been boozing up til the last hurdle.
How have other people handled this? It really makes me angry all this recent publicity about fertility declining in our 30s because every single person I know who's had a baby in the last couple of years while I've been TTC has been aged 35-40 and not one has had a problem except one woman who, like me had major abdo surgery then had to have IVF. The rest have just popped them out no problem and most of them spent the previous decade caining it with drugs and binge drinking every weekend. Rant over!