We should of start our second round of ICSI but due to coronavirus clinic not doing any treatments.
Since finding out on Monday my mental health seems to have gone really low. The not knowing when it's going to start back up, I've gotta phone clinic in 4 weeks time to get an update but this poxy virus isn't going to go away in 4 weeks.
How are people coping with this new waiting for treatment because I'm literally going out of my mind and feel like giving up hope altogether
Im so sorry to hear your cycle was cancelled...its such an unwelcome added stress in this already stressful journey. Have you tried accessing the counselling provided by most clinics? Even just over the phone..thye might have some suggestions for you xo
I usually see the counsellor, the last time she called me she said she'd call in couple of weeks but dont think shes even at work, also I struggle to say how I feel talking to someone over the phone as I tend to say I'm ok when I'm not 😞
It's horrendous isn't it? I'm in a similar position. After 3 failed cycles I'd allowed myself to get hopeful again as I am with a new clinic with much better stats (and arguably approach) than my local one. Now I feel it's all been stolen away and I'm so angry at myself for not starting the cycle sooner. My last BFN was at Christmas and devastating and I gave myself a break after. Regretting it so much now as I'm 39 and don't have lots of time. Also my brother and his wife had transfer a couple of weeks ago and all looking okay for them (though lots of corona anxiety obv). Im happy for them but life is very unfair.
If you've got through cycles before you're strong and tough, you'll get through this. Things will sort themselves out and they'll start cycles again. It's not forever. For mental health some useful things can be staying active (I find the outdoors really helps me), staying connected with friends and family, helping others (I'm joining some corona community support groups) and for me staying busy. There's more in the link below or check out Mind and other MH charities. nhs.uk/conditions/stress-an...
This is so hard. We need to look after ourselves. Xxx
It's just all a nightmare, really hope this corona virus would just disappear so we can continue with live as normal
I feel terrible that you girls are going threw this I have a large family and I've done saragency theres so many people that deserve to have kids and cant and then theres so many people who dont deserve there kids at all when we get threw this I wouldn't mind helping another family eith there dreams good luck ladies
I feel the exact same 😢 hugs to you! I was meant to be starting a cycle on Tuesday which is the first one after an early miscarriage last month. I had got my mental health in a good place thinking I would have started by now and Sunday (Mother’s Day) wouldn’t be so bad to bare. Now there’s just no focus date or anything it’s just the unknown that’s killing me! I also can’t do the things I would normally do to distract me (trips away, nice restaurants, nights out with friends etc.) I am just focusing on the fact that it must be a really worrying time for pregnant ladies at the moment and this is not the time for getting pregnant and having little or access to healthcare. I’ve also stocked up on Prosecco for the inevitable lockdown 😆 thinking of you and I’m here to talk and have a moan with any time you need it 🤗 xx
I’m sorry this is happening to you. I feel the same. I was due to start medication in a week. My clinic said they aren’t expecting to start fertility treatment again for a few months. It’s the not knowing when ill be able to start again that is hard. I geared myself up, and just feel a bit rubbish now. I agree with Twiglet2 as well. All the things I’d usually do like go out for meals, meet friends etc. I can’t do. But I’ve been trying to keep my mind busy. Like starting some DIY projects around the house. Spring cleaning. I also think I may speak to a counsellor if I feel like I need too. So maybe you could consider some of these. We will all get there ❤️ I know it’s a horrible situation. Always here for a chat xx
I'm so very sorry to hear you're feeling so down and can totally understand how frustrating and disappointing this must be for you. I'm in a similar position, not exactly the same but i've been waiting for surgery (initial clinic appointment back in October). It was cancelled twice and now no date in site. ☹️ Can't move forward with the rest of my treatment until I have surgery. Been so low about this. My GP was seeing me regularly because of my mental health which sort of helped keep me going in a way but now these sessions have stopped I feel very lost in the system. Just had a family pregnancy announcement too which has made me feel even worse. I'm so happy for them, and I completely understand given the current climate that I am a very low priority but it doesn't nake it any easier. I have decided to start a diary and jot down everything I feel just to get things off my chest without worrying my loved ones and just keeling myself as busy as possible. Take care, thinking of you and sending BIG hugs ♥️
Thank you all.
I was seeing counsellor but with all this that has stopped and I struggle with saying how I'm feeling over the phone as it's so easy to say I'm ok and then get off the phone and like why did I just say that when I'm not ok.
I'm trying to keep myself busy with work which is also a stressful time with all this covid 19 just wish it would do one so I can concentrate on getting through the next cycle now instead my mind just keeps going round and round in cycles not knowing when we ever going to get to continue. All I've had right through treatment is hold up after hold up and then when I feel ready we now have to deal with this.
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Aww im so sorry lovely, I could have written this myself. Such a difficult time and the not knowing can be the hardest sometimes. Sending love and hugs your way ❤️
The not knowing definitely is the hardest, every day seems to be a constant battle with my emotions. Now with the social isolation beginning today with the not seeing friend and literally going out just to go to and from work is going to make it harder still 😞.
It's such a hard time isn't it? I do understand the rollercoaster of emotions.
Are you able to speak with your GP on the phone to discuss how you have been feeling?
I know i've gone downhill quite quickly since coronavirus. I got myself into a right pickle on Thursday.... Surgery was planned for Tuesday which was cancelled Monday evening so I went back to work. I had a GP appointment booked for Thursday (booked over a month ago so should have been on planned sick leave!) Surgery said I ciuldbattaned as per norm so got myself ready to leave but GP ended up calling me at work and had to sit in an office with people coming and going. We live in the dark ages at work, no other phone line and mobile signal non existent. Very awkward to say the least.
My anxiety has been terrible and i've actually asked my GP to call back next week so I can chat to her properly confidentially. Now I feel awful for using her time 🙉
PM me any time. At these times we need the support of each other. Take care and BIG hugs ❤️❤️❤️
Feeling down and deflated 😥
Really upset, 12 month wait!!!
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