Having a really down day 😔

[Jebby86]

I’m really not doing too well at the moment. My third transfer was on the 28th February, it was our third bfn. I’ve since had the test for sticky blood and the NK cells biopsy test. These were stupidly expensive and haven’t shown anything being wrong. I feel really abandoned by my clinic. They haven’t been in touch and every time I ring to speak to my doctor she’s not there.

I feel lost and with no one to turn to. I’ve got one frostie remaining. I need someone to tell me what to do. I need someone to tell me that everything is going to be ok. I need for this to work.

I have to keep fighting back the tears today. I know that there are people out there going through much worse than me and I feel guilty being so negative and down. I just don’t know what else to do 😢

Hoping there is someone here who can say something to help put a smile on my face.

Xxx

[looploopy709]

Hello Jebby86

I haven't yet gone through IVF so I can't understand the pain of it all. I can only it imagine it's the same pain of the disappointment each month but magnified.

Your a warrior and don't forget that! You need to do what you think is right. I know it's hard to think clear at the moment but clarity should come at some point. There's not much i can say but my thoughts are with you xxx

[gemmy999]

Hi, BFN’s are such a tough thing to recover from. I’m sorry to hear your struggling. I can sympathise with you as I feel exactly the same at the minute 😢 just want to cry all the time. Have you had some counselling? It’s good to talk and to cry. So don’t worry about crying. Although it doesn’t feel like it, and believe me I feel like I’m stuck in this sadness for ever but it does get easier. Just time, it’s a grieving process. Have you got a good support network? Have you had a follow up app yet? Must be hard not having the support from your clinic. That’s great that you have a frostie left. Take that as a positive. You have that chance with a FET when you are ready. You never know if that’s the one without trying. You just need time to get your strength back. Do the things you love. Maybe a little trip away. Be kind to yourself. You have every right to be sad. We’re not super human. But you will be happy again. And one day we will get our dream 🌈 xx

[Orla9298]

Could you speak to your GP about referral to the local recurrent miscarriage clinic? I think a certain number of miscarriages are expected for referral but I think multiple failed transfers also qualifies x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Jebby. So sorry to read that you are so down in the dumps at the moment. I was just wondering whether, even though you have had NK cells and phospholipids checked, whether it still might be an idea to ask about using heparin when you have you last little frostie transferred? It may ensure an even blood supply to your womb lining and prevent any clot formation. Just my thoughts, but worth asking about. Thinking of you. Diane

[kitscat]

Hi Jenny86

I’m sorry for everything you have gone through. I am struggling too. Are you going to try another round of IVF? Xx

[Jebby86 in reply to kitscat]

Hi,

I really don’t know what to do at the moment. I’m really not sure if we should have our last frostie transferred or if we should try and raise the funds to do another fresh cycle. I hate not knowing what to do. This journey is exhausting. Xx