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Yesterday I was 11+1 and started spotting. Went to hospital today they said they can do a scan but because it's the weekend and this is little old New Zealand there was no sonographer there who specialize is in ultrasounds so they may or may not be able to see baby and heartbeat and no vaginal ultrasounds...they couldn't see anything. I've started bleeding a bit more now and cramps started. Doctor called with my hcg results and they are only 960 πŸ˜₯ last hcg I had was 7200 weeks ago. So I've had a missed miscarriage so it's all over 😭 Just waiting for it to start. I'm so scared. I'm only to go back to the hospital if I cannot manage pain with normal painkillers. I'm terrified of what's to come πŸ˜₯ if someone has been through this can you please DM me? as I dont know what to expect I'm terrified. We got so far but I knew it was too good to be true. I just knew something was wrong when my nausea disappeared at 8/9 weeks. We have 1 more frozen embryo but I really dont think I can go through this again the anxiety I've had has been crippling. Thanks to everyone for all your support. I dont think its sunk in yet what is happening 😭πŸ˜₯πŸ’”

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Ajplus1

Oh sweetie I’m so so sorry to read this ☹️ I can’t imagine how you are feeling! Sending you lots of love and hugs. Xx

So so sorry Niki. It's really hard. I do hope you are able to take time to recover mentally and physically. And hopefully next time is your time. Big hugs to you. Xxxx

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When I had the anembryonic last year I had reached over 30,000 hcg (not sure if the number relates to anything). I had to take some pills to bring on the miscarriage although I had been spotting for weeks by that point. It was like a very bad period with clots but it was manageable with normal painkillers.

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Mifkipi

:( sorry to be reading this. Sending lots of love your way X take care..

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WannaBMum

I'm so sorry Niki, we started this journey at a similar time so my heart really does bleed for you. Take time to heal and be kind to yourself.

Sending you lots of love and hugs xxx

I’m so sorry for your loss and devastated reading this πŸ’” I haven’t been through a missed miscarriage before but I understand your fear when I went through my ectopic.

Sending you lots of hugs & my love. Take each day as it comes as you’ll more than likely be a bit traumatised lovely xxxx

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Kitcat12

I'm so so sorry for your loss, this is so sad 😞 I miscarried but was only 6 weeks along so I'm sure my experience was different to what will happen for you. I think the worst bit is not knowing what will happen during the process. For me it was like a really heavy and painful period with lots of large clots and tissue being passed (I'm so sorry I know that's really upsetting) and that was definitely the worst part emotionally. It's a tough process for your mental health, surround yourselves with loved ones and be kind to yourself. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

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Hollibob

Oh no!!!!!.....I’m so sorry and upset for you πŸ™

I will PM you x

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Dreams1982

I'm so sorry to hear this xx like a lot of the others I mc at 6 weeks and it was just lots of clots and heavy bleeding x sending you hugs xx

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CatDV

Niki, I am so sorry this is happening to you 😒

It’s so cruel πŸ’”

I have no experience with natural miscarriage as I had a D&C.

I am sending all my love and strength on your way

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waitingg

I’m so sorry to hear this Niki, it’s heartbreaking. Sending you lots of love xxx

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Core

So so sorry to read this, sending lots of love xx

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Dreamingofbaby

Bless u. So sorry to hear this. Big big hugs for u. It is so horrid and scary. Went through this very recently. Everyone’s experience is diff but always suggest having ppl close by. Hospital hopefully can get u strong painkillers though for me this was on and off. Hard to know what else to suggest as it not nice at all. Be gentle to you Hun and hope got good support around u. Here if want dm me. Xx

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Minnie92

So sorry to read this Niki this is just heartbreaking. I can’t even begin to imagine how you are feeling right now. Sending lots of hugs and know that I’m thinking of you πŸ˜ͺ xxx

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Novice_knitter

So sorry to hear this Niki_B xxx

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Lots8788

So sorry to hear this x sending lots of love x

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Kari55

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Drives

Absolutely heartbreaking reading this πŸ’”. I'm sorry that I don't have any advice or can help in any way but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and sending lots of love x x x x x

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Cinderella5

Oh my lovely Niki, I'm so so sorry honey!!πŸ˜ͺπŸ’” Absolutely devastated for you. There are no words but I'm here if you need to talk, just holler! Sending lots of love to you both.xxxxx

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Bali88

So upset for you 😒 there are no words to make you feel better but we are all here if you need to talk xxx

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MissSaoPaulo

Oh no, I'm so, so sorry to read this hon. It's so unfair. Sending you big big hugs

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ICSIBaby86

I am absolutely devastated for you 😒😒 thinking of you πŸ’— sending you all the love in the world xxxxx

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Lou7744

Aww... I am so, so sorry to read this. It’s truly heartbreaking. I went through a miscarriage at just over 11 weeks and it was a horrible time, both physically and emotionally. Sending you big hugs πŸ’• xx

Hi hun I’m so sorry your going through a mmc I’ve had 3 over 12w it’s awful truly heartbreaking! Sending love x

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Twobaby

Hello Niki b really feeling sorry for what u have gone through...but jst wanted to ask did try iui?? Cause as our tubes are long may be iui is a procedure in which it helps the speed half a way through..so did u try dat??

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Niki_Bβ€’ in reply toTwobaby

No iui still wouldnt work. The fertilized egg would still need to travel down the tubes to get to the womb. IVF they put the embryo straight in your womb.

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Twobabyβ€’ in reply toNiki_B

So u dint try iui??

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Niki_Bβ€’ in reply toTwobaby

No. Like I said theres no point it wouldnt work

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Twobaby

Hubby's swimmers half a way through??

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Niki_B

It's not worth trying if it's almost impossible it would work. Its the same as having regular intercourse. But all the best for you xx

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HM_3

Sorry hun. It's so hard and I feel for you. I'm going through the same thing and it's just a heavy heavy period. You will be fine as our bodies are built to manage this. I am thinking of you and feel exactly the same about not wanting to go through it all again. Take some time after this episode and enjoy things before making a decision about what to do next as you might feel differently. It's so unfair that we have to go through this and the anxiety and rollacoaster of emotions is exhausting. I feel your pain. Sending you lots of hugs x

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Niki_Bβ€’ in reply toHM_3

Thanks hun. And I'm so sorry you are going through this πŸ’” it's so not fair and so cruel. Unfortunately mine was not just a heavy period I was in hospital for 2 days and passing clots the size of my fist..lots of them. It was horrendous πŸ˜“ I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for your kind words it means alot. Sending big hugs back πŸ˜“πŸ’—πŸ’•

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