Sorry to start the weekend off on a depressing note but I’m struggling.
Was 10dpt of our 1st FET yesterday & started having light bleeding 🥺 tried to tell myself it could b implantation bleeding but think I already knew. I’ve woke up this morning & its pretty much my period 😭😭
Feeling so lost as I don’t know what else I can do 2 make my body work the way it should.
My other half has been working away through this attempt & all I want 2 do is the pull the covers over my head & make the pain stop!
We do have other embryos frozen but the drs have said they wanted 2 do investigations in regards to a fibroid I have if this transfer failed & im terrified of how long a delay this will add.
This journey is so hard & unforgiving & just feel like I am hitting brick walls everywhere I turn.
Thank u 4 being here to let me vent ❤️
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❤️❤️❤️ it’s the worst feeling and is so unfair! Are you going to test just so you know for definite? Take today to yourself ..cry let it all out and treat yourself to something. Positive that you still have your two Frosties so you’re not starting from scratch again and the investigation could make all the difference for next time xxxx
Oh love I’m so sorry to hear that, it’s totally ok to stay in bed and cry. Hope you can spend sometime cuddling up with your OH this weekend. Re. Wait for fibroid investigation - it might not be so bad and look at it this way, your embryos are already formed and just waiting to be popped back in so the pressure on you if you’re a little older is a lot less. It’s best to get this fibroid checked out as it could change your fortunes next time. Hope you feel better soon xx
Hi Beatrix_K, thanks so much 4 responding,I love having this forum 2 connect with people who just get it.
OH isn’t back til next wk but it’s been so hard 4 him being away while this is all going on so we’ll take some time. Sometimes I find it’s good 4 me 2 have time on my own 2 cry my little eyes out & eat as much junk food as I want.
I’m 40.5 so age is a concern 4 me if there’s any timely delays but we are incredibly fortunate 2 have our Frosties & I don’t want 2 waste any before we get abit more info on this fibroid.
So sorry to hear this. As others said take some time to grieve and do take a test to be absolutely sure. My first IVF clinic recommended this.
With regards to the fibroids, I think your doctors investigating it is actually a good idea as it can really affect pregnancies depending on where they are located and their size. The time it takes to investigate will not affect your other embryos that are frozen in time.
Hi JoyfulStar, thanks so much 4 responding. Yeah, gonna test on OTD on Tuesday. Feel like someone’s stabbing my stomach so it will just b 4 confirmation I feel.I think it would b silly not to investigate the fibroid b4 nxt transfer as I don’t want to waste any of our remaining Frosties.
Thank u 4 ur thoughts. I am so grateful 4 this safe space to share ❤️xxx
So sorry to hear this sad news. It’s so disappointing. I really feel for you. Same for me too today at 10dpt. No bleeding but a stark negative test. I feel like stopping all my meds as just don’t see the point of continuing until Tuesday OTD).
I’m at a party this afternoon and feel in a rubbish mood and I’m meant to be driving “just in case” when all I feel like doing is having a drink and drowning my sorrows as we’ve no more Frosties.
Ivf is the worst procedure. 😢 Make sure you embrace that day to yourself today.
Hi jkm22, thanks for your reply. I’m so sorry 2 hear about your negative. Sending u big hugs. I’m with u in spirit! 💞
Yeah, think I’m going 2 have a lil alcoholic beverage…or 3 2nite.
I would say if u don’t feel up 2 the party then give urself grace but it might b a good distraction aswell.
I went 2 a friends last nite & really wasn’t in the mood because the bleeding started a few hrs b4 but it helped take my mind of it 4 a few hrs & I’m glad I went. U’ve got 2 do what’s best 4 u.
It’s so hard when they’re away isn’t it but then I think I’m getting a few football free days just now so I can watch all the cheese I want cos it won’t last 🙂
Aww thanks for replying! Yes that’s one perk of them being away… I’ve managed to catch up with my greys anatomy & friends reunion!!! Think I’m going to start something funny and daft today and take my mind off stuff.
I was adamant I wouldn’t do another cycle but we’ve got one paid for so just need to find the money for the drugs but I had such a bad reaction last time, can’t say I want to go through it again. It’s just tough when you know it’s there, waiting!
I’m going to go to the party otherwise I’ll sit around and mope all day. I may just treat myself to a glass of fizz!
Thanks for the message, it actually cheered me up a little xx
Hi, I’m so sorry you got a BFN, it’s very sad. As well as checking your fibroid, it might be a good idea to ask your clinic to check your Progesterone levels because you’ve started bleeding before OTD and while still on medication. Hope you are okay and manage to take some time to work through things xxx
Hi Daffodils140, thanks so much for your response. I will ask about progesterone levels, thanks 4 the tip. Our last one failed on 6dpt & every day past that this time I could feel the excitement building then felt like I got punched in the stomach on day 10 😔 xxx
My heart goes out to you! I understand your pain and the waiting game between each transfer is excruciating. I had a failed ivf round in April. Now waiting for my 2nd period to make an appearance so I can start another round. The only thing you can do now is to cry your eyes out. That's what I did for a few days and then you'll start to feel more ok about the whole situation!
I feel your pain and frustration, I’m 10dp 5dt and have been having loads of cramps but the test is negative and I’m pretty sure I’m just coming on my period! This is our third FET and the embryologist have already said our last embryo doesn’t look like it will thaw well!😩😢 I can’t really offer much advice but just know that you’re not alone in how you’re feeling.x
Hi SuzyL123, thanks for your response. I’ve got everything crossed 4 u, u never know on OTD. We’re here 4 u either way. Realising how amazing this forum is over the last couple of days. It’s strange how good it feels connecting with strangers who just it 💗 xxx
I love this forum for exactly that! How are you doing?It was our test day yesterday and still negative, that’s 4 embryos now! We’ve still got 1 frozen embryo left but it’s not the best grading so I already feel a bit defeated!😢 probably just too soon to be thinking ahead about it!x
I’m doing abit better thanks. Got an appointment tomorrow 2 get a saline sonogram to try & get abit more info on my fibroid so pleased the hospital have arranged that so quickly.I’m so sorry about ur negative. It is such a devastating feeling! Sending u big hugs 🤗🥰
Yeah, just take some time & try to re-group. Ur doing awesome!! ❤️xx
So sorry to hear it's so hard the first time. It's ok to not go anywhere stay in bed and be upset, lots of film and Chocolate. I had fibroid and polyp removed before both transfers it does take longer but so worth getting it sorted if you can. Delays are horrible but also can help. Just remember every cycle the clinic and your team want YOU to be successful and they always think for your best interest
Hi Reewills1, thanks for your response. That’s such a gd point & I love the staff at our hospital it’s just so frustrating. The comments on here have reminded me that we have our Frosties so I need 2 try & forget about age. I need 2 do everything I can 2 give them the best chance. As tough as the delays may b hopefully they’ll b worth it xxx
I'm so sorry to read this. It is the most awful feeling in the world and I know how hard it is to keep going with the meds when your heart knows it hasn't worked. That's great you have some frosties 🙂 As others have said, definitely ask for progesterone monitoring next time.
I have a couple of suggestions: 1) if it is going to take a long time to get the fibroid sorted on the NHS, would you consider/be able to do it privately? Private hysteroscopies aren't mega expensive for the procedure itself; necessary additional surgery can be the thing that makes it pricey, but it is worth looking into as wait times are far shorter. 2) Depending on how many frosties you have, what about doing a freeze all cycle to get some more embabies ASAP? Age is an issue mainly due to egg quality - yes, the older one is the more risky a pregnancy becomes but I'm not sure an extra year makes much difference to preg risk, whereas it may make a significant difference to AMH and egg quality. I considered this myself when I had a failed first round in Jan -I had a polyp that I wanted dealing with before the next transfer and wasn't sure how long that was going to take this year as the NHS wait lists were crazy. In the end I did a private hysteroscopy with my clinic and so the next fresh round did have a transfer, but had they not been able to remove it (a risk with in-house as they don't have all the kit) I had planned to do a freeze-all while waiting for an NHS hysteroscopy, which the clinic supported. It also makes you feel like you are doing something during that horrid wait - I had to delay starting IVF for about 8 months last year due to waiting for my first hysteroscopy and COVID, and that was really tough. Sending you many hugs xx
Hi Purpledoggy, thanks for your response & suggestions. Yeah, think I will need 2 private if I’m going 2 get fibroid removed. Consultant told me it’s a yr waiting list on nhs & I’m just not willing to wait that long. He said he’d do a saline sonogram 1st 2 get a better idea of what the fibroid looks like & then a hysteroscopy. Hopefully the times 4 that won’t take 2 long.
We r incredibly lucky to still have 5 Frosties. Not sure what the grades are but don’t want to waste anymore so think I need to just accept it’s gonna take a while b4 we can do a transfer again but it’s so hard.
As much as I knew this transfer might not take u can’t help start imagining the future & I hate the fact that that future might not happen 4 us 😔
Oh I am sorry it may not have worked. It is just so difficult and the feelings involved so strong! Sounds like you got a good plan to be kind to yourself! And sometimes like you said, a bit of alone time is needed! But then hopefully you will get some lovely cuddles when your other half is back 💛
I had a fibroid I had to deal with before we started IVF - I am no expert, only personal experience, but once you have more information- if you have any questions or just need to vent about the pesky fibroid(s), please do just reach out!
Look after yourself and wishing you all the best! And hopefully you can try again with your little frosties soon! 💛 Virtual hug!
I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that our thoughts are with you.
It is better to check the fibroids or any other thing that may be impacting implantation and thriving of the embryos. Check iron levels and etc. It's better that you have embryos that can have better chance than to hurry to next treatment.
Are you able to get frankincense essential oil to diffuse or inhale. It will help with the current grief. I went through this a long time. Trust me it will be alright eventually
Hi Tobytubs11, thanks for your response. I’m so sorry to hear about your failed cycles. It’s such a hard journey.Wishing you lots of luck 4 the future xxx
So sorry your having to experience this, I recently had my first attempt at IVF and had the same thing day 10, I really understand what you going through! Maybe not just as much as your having this recurrently! Don’t give up! You will get there.. but take care of yourself.. these investigations will help you get you with your journey! I know it doesn’t feel it right now.. I’m starting round 2 end of July, this time I am being prescribed steriods as I had a good womb lining and embryo but just didn’t work.. we will get there, and all the pain throughout this journey will be worth it.
Hi Fertility2021, thanks for your response. I’m really sorry 2 hear about your negative. Sending u big hugs. I’m feeling abit better 2day, cried so many tears yesterday. Some how we find the strength 2 keep going & I just feel so lucky & grateful that we have our Frosties.
Wishing u lots of luck & baby dust 4 round 2 ❤️Xxx
Big hugs, I had the same earlier this week, first round no Frosties it rotten but I keep trying to remember that it’s going to take a few tries before we hit the jackpot x
Hi Papillonblue, thanks so much for responding. I’m really sorry to hear about your negative. Sending you big hugs 💗Yeah, just need to keep being positive xx
I'm so sorry this happened and praying for you, i know how hard it is to wait and to bleed at 10dpt, i've been there twice. I turned 40 in May and did 2 rounds at 39 that failed. My hubby travels a lot for work, he's here this month and we're trying naturally, but i doubt it will be successful, anyway keeping my fingers crossed, otherwise will start my next ivf round in 10 days. it soothes my heart reading all the comments and all the support from women dealing with the same case. SENDING YOU LOTS OF POSITIVE VIBES!
Hi Future1000, thanks so much 4 ur response. It really has helped me the last few days having the support of all these amazing people! I’m sorry 2 hear about ur experience & sending u lots of love & babydust on the nxt steps 💞xx
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