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[andre70348]

Hi, my partner and I have been trying now for 18months. I've had blood tests for Fsh and progesterone levels that all came back clear- just slightly low on iron. My partner has been to the clinic for his first sperm test which came back his was 3% instead of 4% on the scale. He has his second test next week, so hoping we can get some better results. It's a monthly struggle, I start positive and by the time of aunt flo is due it turns around! I've currently got 3 friends that are pregnant all at the same time, one who just told me she found out she was 5 months!! I'm happy for them obviously, but can't help being sad!

Our message group and when we meet become baby/kid talk and its really hard at times!

Anyone got any remedies

[Thejourneyofyou]

I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling like this. I can completely relate. All my friends with children or pregnant and my husbands friends wives the same. The only friend that isn’t doesn’t want to be so she can’t relate. I’ve now had to actively avoid things that leave me feeling sad (apart from planning my best friends baby shower - that I should have said no to it was hell).

Try to keep occupied, exercise and healthy diet. There is an app for ovulation, also try supplements if you haven’t already. Easy to say but keeping calm, staying positive and being relaxed really is key. We can only deal with the cards we have been dealt and take things slowly. Sometimes it helps to explain how you feel to people because unless they are experiencing it they really don’t understand. I feel like a teenager when I’m with my friends because I just cannot relate to their experiences anymore or them to me xx

[andre70348 in reply to Thejourneyofyou]

Sorry you feel like that with your friends, I completely understand! It must have been really hard planning her baby shower! Well done you!

Yeah I'm finding I'm starting to do the same with friends, days out etc. I just make my excuses rather than pretend that everything is all ok.

I think the next step is going to be mentioning how I feel and why I choose to duck out of some situations and group meetings.

I'm taking folic acid and iron tablets, is there anything else you would recommend?

Just trying to stay positive and relax xx

[Drives]

Hi and welcome 👋

Hope you find this site useful. Joining here was one of the best things I did - have received so much advice and support from the lovely ladies and gents on here.

Sorry to hear you're struggling a bit with so many of your friends announcing their pregnancies. It's bloody hard isn't it? No easy remedies I'm afraid but talking about it on here helped and distancing myself from constant baby talk helped me loads. You've got to look after yourself 😘

I hope your husbands tests go well next week and good luck with your journey x x

[andre70348 in reply to Drives]

Thanks for your reply and advice! For once I think I do need to be a little selfish and take the time out for me, instead of trying to please friends when it's becoming uncomfortable for me.

Fingers crossed for our results

[Drives in reply to andre70348]

Will be keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you 🤞🍀

Good luck and take care of yourself x x x

[andre70348 in reply to Drives]

Thank You!! And to you on your journey ❤

[S_asha]

Totally know what you mean about the monthly journey. It's so up and down isn't it! All positive and hopeful and then the worst! Good news about your blood tests I hope your husbands tests go better next time. Wishing you lots of luck!! I have no remedies as baby talk destroys me too. Just like everyone else said really, I distance myself from it, I try and keep busy to distract myself but some days you just have to be sad I suppose. I don't know if people will find it too cheesy but I did google and download a few songs that made me feel a bit more hopeful/better at the time xx

[andre70348 in reply to S_asha]

100% it's like a rollercoaster! And I get really down on myself. Not cheesy at all, we all have to do what works for ourselves and deffo taking the time of out! Good luck with your journey x

[PurpleLove19]

I’m sorry to hear this and I hope you get some positive news of your own soon.

I’m sorry to say this but if you continue on this difficult journey then you may have to distance yourself from the mum club chat and be honest with them. You may be stronger than I am but it’s something I just can’t tolerate at the moment.

It’s all normal hun x

[andre70348 in reply to PurpleLove19]

Thank you! Yeah do you know I think you're right. Some times you think you should just go along with it, but no body is thinking about you!! I do think that my patience is starting to wear thin though!! Thanks for your advice xx

[PurpleLove19 in reply to andre70348]

I’m sure they will understand and if they don’t then they aren’t real friends.

I was very honest with my best friend the other day. She’s trying and I said if it does happen il be happy for you but I won’t be coming to your baby shower and she was like I wouldn’t expect you too.

You have days where you can face situations and others where you may need to hide away until the feeling passes slightly x

[andre70348 in reply to PurpleLove19]

Yeah that's very true!! Well sounds like you have a supportive and understanding friend! But totally agree sometimes you need to just hide away xx