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Hi,

I'm sat up in bed watching tv, wide awake waiting for something to start happening. Realised yesterday I've had a chemical pregnancy- 5 weeks pregnant following 2nd icsi cycle. I stopped progesterone yesterday, have been having spotting, and some bleeding on wiping, but nothing on my pad. The clinic told me today to expect the loss to be heavy and painful due to the weeks I've been on progesterone. I just want it to hurry up and be over with. I had a heavy loss on my last failed cycle, but scared how bad this time will be as I actually was pregnant and have been on the meds for longer. Anyone had experience of bleeding after a chemical pregnancy, is it as bad as I'm imagining. I had a miscarriage 5 years ago, but had surgery for that, so this is a totally different experience x x

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Ahla

I'm exactly in the same boat as you. I don't know what to expect either but just wanted to let you know you aren't alone. 🌹

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2018hopeful in reply to Ahla

I'm sorry you're going through the same. It's so hard isn't it. Stay strong x x

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I had to have a medically managed miscarriage at 8 weeks last year. Because it was pills it happened within a couple of hours. Like the worst period ever for an hour, then heavy for a few days. Although I had reached 8 weeks, i was measuring 5 and had two empty sacs.

It's awful, sad, painful in so many ways, but st the same time a relief in a weird way when it finally starts as you know you will be able to carry on.

I hope it happens quickly for you.

Sending you big hugs xxx

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Dreamingofbaby

So sorry for this. I had a natural miscarriage last year and can relate to not knowing when and what to expect. It is so sad when this happens and so unfair.

You can get through this. Hope it won’t be too painful or long. Think it diff for diff people but for me wasn’t as bad as thought it would be in a strange kind of way.

Take good care xx

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Kat9lives

I'm so sorry you're going through this xx

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Klndmr

Hey. Im so sorry you are going through that... Stay strong and take really good care of yourself. Oh God i really hate when this happens to somebody... Im sending you lots of hugs!

I had a miscarriage last year at 8 weeks. The pain was alright not really different than really heavy period. But the bleeding... Didn't stop for a month it was a nightmare. It was really heavy for few days and then constant for another few weeks. I thought it will never stop. I got hemorrhoids as well. But it passed and i was so grateful didn't have any complications.

You are not alone! You have so many lovely ladies here and we are all here for whatever you need! Hope it passes quick.. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I am so sorry you are going through this. I had a chemical pregnancy at 5 weeks Christmas day 2 years ago. It started as spotting and bad cramps then the bleeding started. It was like a heavy period with contraction type pains for about an hour when I passed it. Bleeding over very fast, not super heavy then I just had a couple of days of milder cramps.

I am sending you all the hugs I can, I hope you're ok as I know how upsetting it all is xx

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I think it’s fair to say everyone has very different experiences, I have just had an early miscarriage and it wasn’t that different to a normal period for me, I bled for longer and had some cramps but not hugely awful ones. Compared to my MMC at 12 weeks which I had back in sept where I was in quite a lot of pain and had really strong cramps. To be honest I think the not knowing and waiting is worse. I hope you are doing as well as you can be. Take good care of yourself xx

Hi , how are you getting on today? I'm really sorry your going through this... So many ladies here to support you.

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Hi, I only had 4 hours sleep, 3-7am, then had a nap for a bit and woke up feeling like I was bleeding. Was in bathroom for ages, lots of bleeding, passed a large clot and was in agony for a while. It then eased off and wasn't even going on my pad. Pain has kicked in again bout a hour ago, so expecting it to get worse again soon. Was so upset when it started this morning, only missed a day of progesterone, and it just confirms it's all officially over 😢😢

Ah love I'm so sorry. Sounds all too familiar, I bleed a disturbing amount in a short time ... Properly curl up in bed, have a good cry if you need to, paracetamol to take the edge off. Hope you get a bit more sleep tonight, you must be exhausted X

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Yes I'm knackered. I feel guilty and it's my fault that this has happened. Why couldn't the test have just been negative in the first place! This is so much worse than my failed cycle. I just feel like such a failure and I'm letting my husband and family down. My parents will never be grandparents if I can't have a child as I'm their only child. They would be such great grandparents too. This is just so sad. Sorry for what you've gone through too x x

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Lovely I am with you. I feel such a failure too - two BFPs in three years and both ended in MC, that’s it, nothing else to show for 41 years. This second one I now need more surgery as first attempt went wrong... and so have to delay ttc again even further

I think in my sane moments we need to give ourselves a break. As someone else said we didn’t ask for any of this. I offered to leave my oh today on the topic of us never having children - he wouldn’t have it... doesn’t really help as I want to be a mum but makes me realise it’s not you or me, it’s just shit luck and doesn’t mean next cycle we won’t both be complaining the whole 40 weeks!

Sending hugs, life sucks at times xx

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Sorry to hear about your difficulties. It's all just rubbish! I'm sure your husband must love you dearly, it's not your fault! I'm not going for any more treatment. We've had 2 nhs cycles. My previous missed miscarriage was 5 years ago and natural conception. Definitely time for adoption. They are so many vulnerable children out there that need a living home. I wish you good luck with your journey x x

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Bless you we are in similar boat. We had to go private ivf and we had one failed and one BFP but MC, we had a natural MC over two years ago. This evening we had a surrogate versus adoption chat. Unfortunately at 47 we think my OH is too old for adoption so that avenue is closed and I am not sure surrogate is right for us. Long story short we have a lot to get our head around.

Your grief is very raw, but I am so pleased you have options. But take it steady and look after yourself this whole thing is a mind **** and not easily accepted. I wish you heaps of luck xx

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AJJ123

In my experience (mc at 7 weeks) it was not as painful or heavy as I thought.

The first few days was brown spotting which increased to a heavy flow for about a day then trailed off into spotting for several days more.

It’s a f’up thing to happen after a positive test and I totally understand how your feeling.

Take it easy and try and do things you enjoy to keep your spirits up, don’t close yourself off. Xx

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