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Dashed hopes

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Hi ladies,

I'm currently waiting for my period after a failed FET in Dec, I've been seeing blood every time I wipe but nothing on the pad for a few days now,sorry if tmi anyway I did a pregnancy test this morning and it was positive so rushed to have a blood test taken and just got results back and they were negative. Lady in clinic said she was shocked, I'd showed her my pregnancy test too,she said it had happened to another lady earlier this week so not sure if there are faulty tests or it was a chemical pregnancy,either way I'm so confused and desperate to get my period. It needs to come before the 9th Feb so that I can do my depo shot before starting on Oestrogen on the 9th. Has anybody else experienced anything like this?

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Cinderella5

Awww so gutted for you Claire, what a head **ck, nasty nasty trick that test played on you! What kind of tests were you using, just out of interest? Hugs to you, so cruel!xx

in reply to Cinderella5

Thankyou, we are both having a shit time aren't we!! I used a Tesco one, the place I go to for scans and tests said another lady had had the same thing earlier this week but not sure what test she used!! I'm just hoping my transfer will still be able to go ahead as planned! Xxx

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Cinderella5 in reply to

Gosh that's crazy, quite bad really unless as you say you had a CP.....no that that helps either way.....yes a shit time of it! Really hoping your period isnt too far away so you can get started lovely, fingers crossed.xx

in reply to Cinderella5

Thanks lovely xx

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Tugsgirl

Oh Claire that’s horrible. Will keep my fingers crossed for you that you’re able to go ahead as planned 🤞🏻 xx

in reply to Tugsgirl

Thankyou hun. How are you getting on? Xx

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Tugsgirl in reply to

Ok I think. Still anxious and in tears sometimes. My brain is constantly thinking “I hope my baby is alright in there or I hope my baby is still ok” and not being able to think of anything else is exhausting. I’m 12 weeks tomorrow, I hope 🙏🏻 xx

in reply to Tugsgirl

If only we could rewire our brains it would make this journey so much more bearable!! When have you got your next scan? Xx

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Tugsgirl in reply to

Wednesday 6th. I should be 12+5 then 🤞🏻 xx

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Tugsgirl

My brother and his partner have their twelve week scan that day too. I’m going to pray for both of you xxx

in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

Thanks Lizzie. How's baby Phoebe? Xxx

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Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to

Thank you for asking @clairenix. Phoebe is doing really well and passed her six week check this week.

I’m so sorry about the trauma you’ve had this week with that test. It’s just rubbish. 😒

in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

Glad she's doing well,can't believe she is 6 weeks already.

I'm just getting tired to be honest been a difficult 6 months but hearing success stories like yours keeps me going! Xx

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Tugsgirl in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie

Ah thank you. I appreciate that xx

in reply to Tugsgirl

Not too long to go but I bet time is standing still? Hope all goes well xx

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Jonesjp

Aw hunny this sounds absolutely s**t!! As if this journey isn’t difficult enough that would well and truly mess with your head. Why is it the witch 🧙‍♀️ never shows up when you actually need her, but is like bloody clockwork on a 2ww. I hope everything goes to plan and you can go ahead with your transfer 😘

I know it's typical isn't it. I've just eaten a bowl of oranges and pineapple to try and bring it on. My clinic have said if period hasn't received by Sunday then I need to have an ultrasound on Mon morn to check my lining and then will decide what to do from there.

How is everything with you?

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MamaVe

Hugs for you! Sorry to hear about your failed IVF attempt and the disappointing beta that marred your hopes of being pregnant in this round. It's already hard to accept a BFN when you're really hoping to get pregnant and quite desperate about it. I can only assume it must be like getting you at the brink of happiness and yet depriving you of it... with the BFP on HPT and then the beta ruling out all the chances of being pregnant. What was your HCG level when you checked? I doubt it was a chemical, the beta indicated the possibility of the chemical if at all. For BFN will give you baseline and anything above that means your HCG increased and certainly conception is the only reasoning that could have triggered the rise. There's hardly a way that you could still be pregnant and the beta was wrong so you've got to accept it move on and keep trying. All I can say is stay strong. Wish you all the luck in the world for conceiving soon. ... Good Luck

in reply to MamaVe

Hi MamaVe,it was a rollercoaster of a day, so hard especially after experiencing a BFP in July which ended in a MMC but you are right I need to move on from it. My next transfer is back on track so that is a huge relief. Just started on a months Step Challenge with work to raise money for the Princes Trust so that will make me get out of bed early and do some exercise so feeling much better today.

How is everything with you?

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tiger-cub

Oh dear . I’m so so sorry

Take care of urself gurl xx

Thankyou lovely, aunt Flo has arrived so my transfer should still be on track....phew!! How's you? Xx

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