Just been emotionally blown

[Kelz84]

So I rang the clinic today asking if I can have a bath yet as I’m two days after transfer. She said yes. I asked if I’m on cyclogest will that prevent me from bleeding?? Ie if I was to have a period or if the blastocyst don’t attach? She advised me that the cyclogest wouldn’t prevent it. So I was hopeful as I haven’t had any spotting or bleeding from transfer or since.

So I was talking to my neighbour and she said when are you thinking to do a pregnancy test. I said I gonna take it on test day. To which she said when is your next period due? I looked and it’s in five days.... 😱.

Until she said that I literally haven’t thought of it like that if that makes sense. I’m fretting so much now! When I’m due on my boobs hurt and my belly swells due to having endometriosis. My current systems since taking my ivf injections, whilst going through egg collection then egg transfer have been swollen boobs and my belly is still swollen. But I have had lower back pain which I’ve had since stimulating but it hasn’t gone away.

Now don’t get me wrong I know stressing isn’t gonna help. But you know when you get that reality check and your bubble burst. Well I’ve just had it. I genuinely am thinking now am I experiencing pre period symptoms. I could scream. Why didn’t I prepare myself for this?? I’ve prepared for everything but this.

I’m now thinking if I’m to test before my test day then what day would anyone suggest.??

[Lou9]

Sorry to hear how you’re feeling. If it’s any reassurance I had terrible premenstrual symptoms before I got my BFP. I was so convinced my period was about to start and had myself in a complete state about it. Wishing you loads of luck and hope you get your much longed for BFP. 💕

[Kelz84 in reply to Lou9]

Hi hun thank you for your reply. Did you have any bleeding after transfer? When did you test? So for the questions. Xx

[Lou9 in reply to Kelz84]

No I was lucky enough not to have any spotting before my test date, although I did have some throughout my pregnancy. I tested 9dp5dt and got a faint positive. Wishing you lots of luck. X

[Kelz84]

See this is when I was thinking of testing. I just feel bad for not testing when my partner isn’t there. How far gone are you now hun. Thank you for your well wishes xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Your period isn’t “due” as ivf has changed your cycle, so don’t start trying to track it based on your normal cycle.

Symptoms for both bfps and bfns are really similar- early pregnancy feels like your period is coming. The drugs in the cyclogest give you symptoms either way so only a test can tell you if you’re pregnant or not. Even if you’re bleeding as some ladies bleed and still go on to get a bfp.

Personally I have always chosen to wait to test because I don’t want the added stress of wondering if whatever result I get is a true result or not. I make my husband hide the test strips so I can’t be tempted.

The 2ww is horrible. The progesterone does affect your emotions even though you feel like you’re on fewer drugs than at other stages of ivf. And it’s really stressful. I think all you can do is try to keep busy.

Good luck xx

[Hidden in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Agreed x

[Kelz84 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Thank you Lizzie. Your post makes perfect sense. Thank you xx

[Niki_B]

I wouldn't read anything into any symptoms. I've had 2 BFN and both completely different symptoms. 1st one no cramps at all, 2nd one aunty flow like cramps all through my 2ww so was hopeful maybe it had worked. Sadly not. I know the 2ww is horrible you will have up days where your very positive and then down days where you just want to cry! I would try and hold out till OTD cause believe me testing will drive you mad!! Not to mention all the money you spend on tests cause then you will want to test daily till OTD. very best of luck to you hun 🤞🤞😘💕

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Niki_B]

Totally agree with above x

[Sausage11]

I’m 16 weeks pregnant with stage 4 endometriosis and it STILL feels like my period is going to start any minute. It’s another cruel part of the ivf process that the symptoms are so similar in the 2ww, plus the endo pain confuses things even further. You can convince yourself the symptoms are one thing when they could be the complete opposite.

I also started spotting very early so you can’t even read into that. As hard as it is try and hold out until OTD because that’s the only way you’ll know for sure. Sending you lots of luck xxx

[Kelz84 in reply to Sausage11]

Thank you sausage. Again this makes sense also. Xx

[HollieW]

The drugs affect everyone really differently and mentally the worry is exhausting during the 2ww as you do drive yourself crazy thinking about your symptoms and what is happening. My advice is not to test early and to try and keep yourself busy until test day. What will be, will be and no one can change that. Best of luck for that BFP 🤞 xx

[Kelz84 in reply to HollieW]

Thank you Hollie. Xx

[Cinderella5]

Agree with Lizzie, your actual "period" wont come as all the drugs knocks everything right out. Its hard not to freak out in the 2ww, we analyse absolutely every twinge but hang on in there. Ive had bleeding on failed cycles and no bleeding on failed cycles....Ive had 4 previous transfers and never had a BFP. We really just dont know, symptoms can vary from transfer to transfer. Progesterone causes so many side effects, work of the devil as it can mimick pregnancy and PMT. Good luck for OTD.xx

[Kelz84 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you Cinderella xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Cinderella5]

I so agree that progesterone is drug of the devil- whilst looking so innocent in its capsule rather than syringe!!!!

[Kelz84 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Ladies I feel reassured by your comments. Thank you all deeply. I’m just gonna ride this journey through. What will be will be xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Kelz84]

You can do it. Think how far you’ve come already xx

[Kelz84 in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

This is true Lizzie. Thank you xx