I’m just after a bit of support while still stuck in the middle of my IVF journey and it feels as if it’s completely taking over my life. I don’t know what to do about it so any suggestions would be wonderful! I can’t quite think straight a lot of the time! (Is this normal?!)
We have just had our second failed ICSI cycle with no Frosties so we’re taking a few months off to gather ourselves together, get healthy and find some strength to try again. I have low AMH so am starting to think it’s my eggs that are weak so if cycle 3 is unsuccessful I’ve started tentatively considering the option of donor eggs which I’m finding quite hard as well.
But basically at the moment my work is causing me the most distress! I’ve always worked with children, in Nurseries and schools and finally settled into a job I love about 4 years ago (before TTC) as a childminder. I absolutely love it but it is getting increasingly difficult to spend time at soft plays, playgroups and parks surrounded by new mums and pregnant women. It’s so tiring bracing yourself for the inevitable every day. I don’t want to deny the children I look after from these experiences though, but it’s so draining!
Also I only have a couple of children on my books at the moment but don’t feel I can take any new ones in as I have to take time off for my cycles which leaves these families without childcare. I’m not earning much and obviously also don’t get paid when I’m off either so feel a bit down about not contributing much.
As well as this, we are planning to move house in the summer. It’s been a big discussion as it’s my husbands family home and his mum is helping us to buy it since my husbands dad passed away a couple of years ago. It’s not the sentiment for him, but the upgrade and a good opportunity which he is very keen on but I’m not so sure! Obviously I’ll need to move my work and also my home is where I feel secure. I’m not sure I have it in me to move there and put my own stamp on it when I’ve lost all sense of myself at the moment! I feel ungrateful but to me it feels like another emotional uncertainty which I don’t know that I can handle. We’ve talked about it lots but my husband is so disappointed at the thought of staying where we are that I can’t cope with that guilt either!
It’s all a bit of a mess really!!
This infertility really doesn’t come alone does it, I feel it’s slowly sleeping into every aspect of my life and I’m desperate to take back some control. Any suggestions?! Should I just move and look for an easy job somewhere until our nightmare is over? I want to be the strong person I used to be but I can’t seem to find her!!
Thank you to all you wonderful people on here, I’d truly be lost without this forum xxx