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Ivf and changing careers

Hi all hope you are well.

I just wanted a bit of advice from you lovely lot.

Today i have been looking into starting a new career. I currently have the most boring job in the world but its easy and local to home (10 mins walk).

It has always been my dream to be a nurse i applied to go to uni at 20 but chickened out at the last minute. Im now 35 going on 36 so no spring chicken lol.

Anyway i came across an apprenticeship programme to study adult nursing. I know being a nurse is very demanding and especially when pregnant.

So my question ive been asking do i apply for my dream job or stick with what i know.

Having a baby has been my priority for so long and i wouldnt want to jeopardise anything whilst pregnant but how long do you hold onto that dream before you think it might never happen. Im currently waiting to start treatment for a medicated FET after my miscarriage on the 27th of December.

Lynsay xx

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I couldn't read and run. Iv thought about this last year and it still wonders through my mind if my business doesn't work out then I'll probably go for it. I'm thinking what I'd do in your situation and I'd go for it. You can always take time off when your pregnant and maternity and go back to learning. Your never to old to learn. There's always a, way round things in this day and age. I'd say go for it if you get pregnant in the time then take time out then go back to learning when your, ready. Good luck with what you decide 💗🤗😘

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If I were you I would go for it. Don’t we all put our lives on hold for so long due to the demands of ivf and wondering if we’ll be pregnant at x time? You said it yourself; dream job. Go for it xx

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Go and make your dream job a reality! My Mum was a ‘mature student’ and went back to uni when I was at school to be a teacher, she worked very hard and became a great role model. Furthering your career will demonstrate to your children that you can work hard and get rewards in dividends, nothing comes to us on a plate! And as A child I had a fulfilling and wonderful relationship with my family. Nursing is an exciting and rewarding calling. And I’m 36, we are nowhere near getting over the hill!!! Don’t put life on hold, I say go for it! xxxxx

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Go for it, if it’s something you’ve always wanted - do it!! It’s so easy to put our lives on hold...Not making plans, just in case!! Just over a year ago a promotion came up n my work and I thought long & hard about do I go for it as I knew I’d likely have IVf on the horizon if I wasn’t lucky to fall naturally - which was obviously & still is my main priority - however I decided not to put ev’thing else on hold and go for it - I got it and a year down the line I don’t regret it at all! xx

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Hey hun

I'm currently working as a social worker. Last year I literally put my life on hold for the what ifs and hope I would become pregnant. 1 fresh round of IVF and 1 FET leading to 2 BFN's. This year I have been offered a new job with a different authority I will be going for it. All of this is so tough and such a challenge. I haven't given up on my dreams but feel life is so short I need to do what is right for me and potentially a new family. Sorry for all the waffle what I am trying to say go for it hun!!! Wishing you so much luck with this journey and all of your future dreams xxx

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I agree with the others, if I had the opportunity I’d go for it. We put so much of our lives on hold, you don’t want to look back at this and think what if. Good luck xx

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I would definitely go for it, like the other ladies have said we put so much on hold for our dream of a baby, that sometimes we lose ourselves. If this is your dream then bloody well go for it!! I’ve just gone on a sabbatical from teaching to try new things and to escape the stress, and it’s been exciting, and empowering to do something for me!! Take this chance lovely, and lots of luck! Xxx

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I can't see any negative in retraining. I changed career just after my daughter was born (took her to my interview when she was 4 weeks old!). I'm now back at work and it is soooo much easier to leave your much longed for baby when you're working in your dream job.

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Hey Lynsay, I say go for it, I know i have spent the last six years putting different things on hold in case I got pregnant. In particular I stayed in a job that was really stressful and toxic where I had no work / life balance but it paid well and I needed the money to pay for IVF! I finally couldn’t take anymore and left in August and am hoping not only will I be able to find a job that I’m happier in but that the removal of that stress and negativity in my life might actually help with getting pregnant. Wishing you lots of luck for your decision xx

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Hi,

I would say go for it! It doesn’t matter if you get pregnant whilst on your training you just put it on hold whilst on maternity leave.

The NHS and nursing is tough as you say but on the other hand they understand pregnancy and the need to protect you and baby. When I have nurses who are pregnant we risk assess straight away and adapt their duties.

Good luck in both your IVF and Nursing training! Xx

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I'd say go for it!! I am in a similar situation.

I've been trying to have a baby with and without IVF for the past 7 years. We are going for donor egg IVF this year. And both of us always wanted to start our own business in selling homemade free from cakes & cupcakes. But never did it as my current job pays ok money and so does my husbands job.

My current job is exhausting. I work 12-15 hour shifts and overnights and only get 5 hours sleep per night.

I am so exhausted that I am too tired to drive to work half the time.

But I stayed in the job as we need the money to pay for the IVF!

So now we decided to go for it and start our own business. We will start it in the next month or so as soon as we have the licence from the council.

I think it's good to go for your dream job. In my case I hope that this will not only give us something else to focus on but also to help me be a lot less tired, stressed and worn out!

Good luck :) xx

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I agree with all the above... I say go for it!! xx

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I have been in my job 21 years and the past few years haven’t been the happiest of times and many a time I have thought about changing my job but decided against it because my bosses have been great with all the time I’ve had to have off for treatment and have been so supportive and that support has and still continues after I went back to work, I don’t think I’d get that support early on in a new job but I wish you all the best in what ever you decide to do xxx

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Go for it! No point on putting things on hold for IVF, you should shape your life how you want it to be, then fit your treatment around that. So exciting opting for a career change! The only thing worth checking and considering is your maternity package - do you get paid maternity leave in your current job? In some work contracts you have to be working with the company for a while (in my case 1 year) to be entitled to a full maternity package, where the company pay full pay & benefits for longer... Good luck whatever you decide to do xx

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I just found this... worth a read x

nhsemployers.org/your-workf...

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Definitely go for it. Nhs terms and conditions are good, you will get mat leave and family friendly shifts. Also NHS has a severe shortage of qualified nurses so you will have a job for life.

Do it, you won't regret it xx

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