In 2ww and risk of redundancy at work :(

[Ree_Laine]

Hi ladies,

I’m currently in my 2ww and I feel like I’m going a little stir crazy. This is my 2nd cycle and I ended up having a double transfer which I really wanted, OTD isn’t for another week. On top of this I’ve just been told at work that my role is at risk of redundancy. As you can imagine this has put a lot of pressure on my well being especially my emotions. I keep crying as I don’t know if I’m going to lose my job, I don’t know if I will or won’t be pregnant and what my future is going to look like. I was so excited to get to this point and I feel like I must be so close to my destiny that in some ways I’m facing more tests and hurdles just to get to it.

Has anyone been in this position at work or has any advice?

I haven’t told them I’ve been doing IVF and didn’t intend on telling if I was pregnant until I was far along. I’m now wondering if I am pregnant should I say something whilst I’m in the consultation period with my employer as I’m aware there are redundancy laws that protect pregnant employees.

It worries me if I am made redundant I’ll lose all my benefits (mat leave) and I won’t be able to find a new job pregnant and will not be entitled to any benefits being at a new company for less than 6 months.

In the meantime I’m trying my best to keep positive for the sake of what I hope are implanted embryos 🤞as having my long awaited family is my priority above anything else 💕

Thanks for reading xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Ree. This is shocking news and I do hoe tit doesn’t happen. At the moment though, without sounding blaze, you must concentrate on yourself, as you’ve most likely come a long way to get to this stage. I will be thinking of you. Diane

[Ree_Laine in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you Diane! Yes it’s been a long road and I’m trying my best to concentrate on myself putting the stress and worry of things I cannot control to the back of my mind. We’ve booked a weekend away for a distraction so hopefully this temporarily helps my well being💕

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to Ree_Laine]

Hi. Good idea, just you enjoy it. Diane xx

[Greenleaves1]

As soon as you have your embryo transfer you are classed as pregnant so have the legal rights. Personally I'd be telling work. The company I work for are always restructuring and it's hard not to stress about it but things always work out the way they are meant to xx

[Ree_Laine in reply to Greenleaves1]

Oh I didn’t realise that, thank you for that piece of information. I think all being well and I get my BFP I’ll be letting them know as there is a role reserved for me and another colleague as we’re in the same ‘pool’ . I don’t think it will look well for my employer to make a pregnant woman redundant when there is an alternative position available and has over 10 years of experience within the company. I agree with you, things that are meant for you will be ❤️. I’m hopeful that everything will work out for my good xx

[Greenleaves1 in reply to Ree_Laine]

Good luck xx

[Marg29 in reply to Greenleaves1]

This is such good advice!

[Banana77]

Just a quick message to say sorry you’re put in this position but glad there is an alternate role for you in the company and enjoy the break away - it’ll be good for you

[Ree_Laine in reply to Banana77]

Hi lovely, thank you for your reply and well wishes 🤗. Hopefully they will give me the alternate role 🤞but it’s between me and another colleague. I’m looking forward to the break away it will definitely help xx

[Sunshine809]

What a rubbish situation, I'm sorry! Even if your transfer is unsuccessful, you're protected by law for 2 weeks from the date you find out the transfer was unsuccessful. If you tell them you will have protection for hopefully another 3 weeks, even if the transfer is unsuccessful, but keeping everything crossed that it is! 😊

Link to Acas below which confirms this.

acas.org.uk/your-maternity-....

Personally i would tell them to protect yourself. If its then unsuccessul but they have treated you badly then hopefully you will have time to find a new and more caring employer before your next transfer! Good luck xx

[Ree_Laine in reply to Sunshine809]

Hi Sunshine,

Thank you so much for your helpful reply ❤️it’s such an inconvenient and rubbish situation But I have found comfort in knowing that I’m protected by certain laws going through IVF. I think as you said I will have to tell them especially if I am pregnant, and I will know for certain next week 🤞. I’ve heard a lot about ACAS so I will be giving them a call to find out my rights and options from a legal point of view. I really appreciate your message today and thank you again for your advice and well wishes xx

[Sunshine809 in reply to Ree_Laine]

Giving Acas a call is a good idea 😊 You're very welcome, hope it all works out for you 💕 xx