First IVF: Missed miscarriage confirmed

[FrancyItaly]

So it is confirmed, I just had a scan. We are waiting for the nurse to call me to talk about my “options”, I know my options very well from my other miscarriage 2 years ago and I know this time I will have surgery and have the tissue analysed. I can’t go through this a third time and before my next transfer I have to know.

I don’t feel much sadness now but I know it will come. They told me my ovary have many big follicles and I wonder who knows I might ovulate and get pregnant just like that soon!

How long do I have to wait before transfer? You might find me so insensitive for thinking about that while technically still pregnant, but we need it so much.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi FrancyItaly. Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear this and hope you've got plenty of support just now. usually you need to have a cycle that is normal for you, then they can go again, the cycle after that. You're talking 2-3 months. If not already tried, then speak to them about using a blood thinner e.g. low dose soluble aspirin and/or heparin to ensure good even bloodflow to your womb lining and hopefully prevent any clot formation. Worth asking if not tried before. Thinking of you. Diane

[FrancyItaly in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you Diane, I will do that when I get pregnant absolutely! Hopefully it will happen for me again. Do you think it make sense to have the tissue examined at this stage?

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to FrancyItaly]

Hi. Personal choice, but no harm in doing it, if it eases your mind. Diane

[Fizzbip in reply to FrancyItaly]

My doctor encouraged my to test during my first miscarriage. Unfortunately it was inconclusive but I don't see why it wouldn't be worthwhile to you now. I took misoprostol and collected it myself but I am in Canada not sure if this is allowed everywhere.

[FrancyItaly in reply to Fizzbip]

Sorry for your loss. Yes it is, I did the same. Did you take it to the hospital after a long time?

[Jess1981]

I'm so very sorry that you are going through this heartache can't help with advice on next transfer, but when we lost our daughter at 20 weeks pregnant I wanted to try as soon as we could -the first doctor said 6 months but leading consultant said after the period after birthing we felt massive relief. So no I don't think you are being insensitive I think a lot couples that lose a baby even late on want to try as soon as possible. I found the trying again part of our healing and grieving process. Good for you. I wish you the very best & hope you become pregnant again soon Xx

[FrancyItaly in reply to Jess1981]

Thank you for your help Jess! Wishing you all the best, keep in contact! x

[ttcemmie]

My heart breaks for you, Francesca. I can completely understand wanting to try again straight away. My understanding is that you can try again after a cycle. I wanted to get going again as soon as possible too. xxx

[Char2383]

Sending you so much strength ❤️ Stay strong lovely x x x

[KiboXX]

So sorry to see this. Sending you a huge hug today xxx

[RhinoCat]

Awh 😔 so so sorry to hear you’ve to deal with this. Such heart break . Sending hugs 😘😘😘💐💐💐💐

[Italy300618]

I'm so so sorry to be reading this, sending you lots of hugs xx

[Twiglet2]

So so sorry that you are going through this and the length of time it has taken too. If they will do the tissue test I don’t see the harm in it as it may give you some answers. I hope you have lots of support around you lovely 😢 sending you a massive hug 🤗💜 xx

[Hidden]

So sorry FrancyItaly it’s the saddest news. I too had a missed miscarriage with my first IVF transfer, it’s such devastating news when you think your miracle has happened. Everyone deals with the pain differently, some need a break and time to heal and others need to make their next plan about what to do next. Don’t feel guilty at all either way sending you a huge hug xx

[Vicky2810]

So sorry to hear this, this day 2 weeks ago I was told I had a missed miscarriage and it’s very painful...I had a D&C on the Wednesday after and just starting to actually believe it’s happened...I want to go for a transfer as soon as possible as well and am hoping I can go on my next period, I have a review app with clinic on 17th sept so will know then if this is possible...I hope u get over the next few weeks and have the support u need around u xx

[eval87]

So sorry that you have to go through this. Sending you strength!