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Always hope

It's been two years since my last post titled end of the road after 3 cycles of ivf I had to except that having a family was not an option I even offered my husband a divorce. Gradually I grieved and life took over. My elderly parents needed me and I concerntrated on them.

Then a year ago this week I fell pregnant naturally. I was eating and drinking what I wanted, stressing about my parents who sadly both died within a few weeks but I still fell pregnant. getting pregnant was the last thing on my mind especially as my consultant could never give me a reason for my infertility.

I guess my post is about don't live by everything the consultants say, I wasted so much time putting my life on hold hoping for a baby. Don't let the process define you relax, god I detoxed, took cocktails of vitamins, ate a huge amount of pineapple etc. I actually fell pregnant after two bottles of champange

It's such a difficult process emotionally and physically that puts pressure on all aspects of your life. I wish someone had said stop letting it define who you are focus on the positives in your life right now. For me it was my parents who I was able to devote my time to which I wouldn't of been able to if I had a baby.

I wish all of you good luck on your journey's just keep hold of you and dont let those three letters blur everything.

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Thank you for sharing this x

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Good luck with your cycle xxx

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Thanks so much for sharing this, I'm so happy things worked out for you. Sorry to hear about your parents xxxx

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Thank you xx Good luck xx

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Means a lot to read this, thanks for sharing 🤗💕🙋🏻🦄🍍🍍🍍🍍🍍😘✨✨✨✨✨🤰🏻

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Good luck with your twin pregnancy xxx

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So sorry to hear your journey has been so difficult but thank you for sharing as you explained perfectly the downward spiral we go through when our bodies wont work the way they should. The guilt we feel and the things we try to rectify the unknown. Im sorry to hear the loss of your parents it must have been a very difficult time for you. Im so delighted you have a ray of sunshine beaming on you with your pregnancy news. Congratulations. Wishing you all the best!!!

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Thank you. It looks like from your post that you are at the beginning of an exciting journey. I hope the scan goes well and the next 8 and a bit months fly by. Xx

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Hopefully fingers crossed thank you xxx

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Thank you for sharing this Kerdrew, it is so relatable for so many as this process can make us exist on autopilot and miss our own lives and the joys within them. I'm sorry you lost your parents but am glad you got to spend that precious time with them. I'm sure they were and are very proud of you, then and now.

It's so important to take a step back to realise this and get to a healthier place. I'm so glad that allowing life to take over helped you achieve your dream naturally. Big congratulations to you xx

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Thank you for your lovely message good luck for your next round xxx

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Great to hear from you and that you have your dream.....x

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Lovely to read , Congratulations, xx

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Congratulations on your pregnancy so lovely hear it happened naturally without any treatment or expecting anything to happen you must have been over the moon when you found out. Sorry for the lost of your parents I'm sure they will be looking down on you with joy and happiness for your little bundle growing inside you. I think that life often has a funny way of things happening at a certain time for a reason. Hope your pregnancy goes I'm sure you will tresure very second xxx

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Thanks for sharing and this is so true. We put our lives in hold and I often think I may regret that in future. I have heard these stories often that when you stop trying so hard it just happens. .fabulous news for you so happy xxx

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Yep. I'm the same as you. Really put my life on hold, changed everything I possibly could, had 2 rounds of IVF. Then gave up, got drunk, ate what I wanted and that was when I got pregnant (I'm now 11 weeks). I guess sometimes we just want a magic cure - that one thing that will finally make it happen for us so we try everything. It was when I shifted my focus away from babies that it finally happened. So I agree with you. Never give up hope but don't let it be the thing that defines you either (easier said than done I know!).

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I also meant to say I'm so sorry for the loss of your parents. I cared for my Dad before he died and I found out recently that our baby is due on what would've been his 67th birthday. I can't help thinking he must've intervened in some way! Xx

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This is such a great post.... and we thank you for sharing Kirdrew

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This is a lovely post, thanks for sharing & huge congratulations to you xx

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Sorry if that was a little insensitive, I meant congratulations on your baby but I'm so sorry to hear about your parents. I'm glad there's been something so positive in a dark time xx

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No need to apologise xxx

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Congratulations Kirdrew! Looking back through your last post 'end of the road' I see that I responded to it at the time so it's nice to hear that it wasn't I fact the end of your journey!

I fell pregnant after a round of IVF and we now have a lovely daughter.

Take care x

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Lovely ❤🌈💋

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I love love love this!! Thank you so much for sharing 💗💗💗

I'm currently in a stage of still monitoring ovulation etc but trying to be free, i actually had a good drink last night. Something I never would do normally but after 4 ivfs nothing they've told me has worked. xx

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Lovely message xx

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Thank you for sharing details of your journey - some really good advice there and reflection. I guess you are close to your due date now. How has it all been for you?

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Thank you. My little was actually born November 2016. I stayed away from here as I didn't want to share my pregnancy and scan photos as I don't think it is fair on others still on there journeys.

I was under a consultant throughout my pregnancy which meant I was scanned lots. We have just celebrated her first birthday.

Good luck to you and take care zz

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