After 19 weeks back to the start

So after first time ivf we had a amazing journey and fell pregnant first time , we lost 3 baby's because of eptopic pregnancys and thought life at last was being kind . The reason for the post ??? We at 19 weeks we gave birth to our beautiful baby boy who only lived for 20 mins ... please please get your self and baby checked as soon as you notice anything . Silly really midwife asked me the day before is everything ok ? To the reply yeh sure ?? I don't know it's my fist time

I had discharged for a day and the next day I had pains most of the day that turned into labour pains the last hour of our pregnancy

No matter how silly you feel get yourself to A&E or midwife don't wait

So we wait for the body to heal and at 41 years old we start again . Not giving up on our dream

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  • Oh my goodness Rosemary how awful for you. Just absolutely heartbreaking. You're both in my thoughts. xx

  • I am so very sorry to read your post. So very brave of you to post your horrendous experience and you have my total sympathy.

    Life is oh so very cruel. Take time for yourself and your partner to grieve your loss. Be kind to yourself. Be VERY kind to yourselves.

    Thoughts are with you


  • I'm so sorry for your loss. This is heartbreaking πŸ˜” take care, thinking of you xxx

  • Your story is so heartbreaking. But your faith and determination to carry on is so inspiring.... and with faith as strong as this you can achieve it......take care of yourself.

    My thoughts are with you xxxxxx

  • Oh rosemary. This is so so painful. 😰Nothing can b worst than what has just happened. But what I appreciate is , ur strength of still moving forward towards ur dream. Please try b a bit kind on urself.

  • There are no words to express how sorry I am for your loss. Take your time to heal, the strength of your spirit is incredible. All the best xoxo

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. This is heartbreaking take care, thinking of you x

  • Oh Hun this is just awful for you, so sorry you've had to go through such tragedy πŸ˜” I think you're amazing for looking forward and thinking about starting again and especially for thinking of and warning others. Huge hugs to you xxx

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. You have been through so much and it will take time to grieve your loss. I admire you for not giving up, its just not your time this time, but it will happen. I believe it will . ..big hugs x

  • Heartbreaking Rosemary, I am so sorry for your loss. Life is sensless at times.

    Take care of each other. Lots of love ❀ xx

  • I am so sorry to hear this. You must feel devastated. I think you are so brave. Take care of yourself as best you can over the coming months. xx

  • So sorry for your loss. I know how much life hurts at the moment. I'm thinking of you xxx

  • I am really sorry! I hope you feel better soon....

    This is so true! You should always check for 2 or even 3 times, have examinations, visit your doctor and have us scan once a month. this is really important and there is no place for laziness or something like "oh everything is going to be fine do not worry". even if everything is destined to turn out great I still think that you should do everything to prevent yourself from these situations.

    Hopefully, time will fly really fast as sometimes it is the best doc...

    lots of love


  • Oh Rosemary, I am so sorry for your loss and can't even begin to imagine how devastated you must be. For you to come on here and think about warning others when you are grieving yourself shows what an incredible and thoughtful person you are.

    Your strength cones through so clearly in this post and I sincerely hope that it carries you through until your dreams come true. Xx

  • Oh Im so sorry for your loss! I can only imagine how devastating this has been for you! Sending you massive hug!xx

  • So sorry for your loss, but really admire your determination xxx

  • I'm so sorry and can't believe your strength in coming to us with a warning. Wishing you lots of healing love and hugs x

  • Rosemary so sad to read this, I can't even imagine what you have both had to go through. Your determination is an inspiration and wish you the very best going forward x x x x

  • What an awful time you've had, I am so sorry. I hope that all your suffering will be transformed to happiness in the coming months, as you bravely go forward. You have all my admiration and respect xx

  • Oh dear, I'm so sorry for that, especially after all you've been through. It must be incredibly tough thing to cope with. but I'm so happy you are ready to start it all over again. i wish I could tell you something to ease your pain...I've never been in your shoes as my first IVF with donor eggs resulted in current pregnancy. but you know, ladies who support me throughout my journey had multiple failed cycles but they became mothers or are still trying even though they are a bit older. I hope your readiness won't leave you. Praying for you xxx

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