Emotional support needed please! IVF FAILED

[PaoPetite]

Just called the doctor to get my blood results and I am not pregnant, I feel shuttered. I just can’t understand why women with Endo have to endure so much emotional and physical pain!!! I blame the doctors 😭! If they could have told me the first time I got diagnosed that might affect my fertility I would have done everything in my hands to get pregnant, I was 34 years old and I believe with better chances of conceiving. But I was left in blank! Never had a proper discussion of the consequences of having h the is disease, now 6 years down the line and I feel like I don’t want to be here anymore! It’s just so hard!!

[Endostruggles]

I know everything is going to feel so emotionally raw and painful today and maybe even for a little bit longer but do allow yourself time to feel this way, it’s perfectly okay to sometimes good to get all the hurt and even anger out, I can sense your anger towards the doctors and I totally get that, I can’t have babies myself and I’m 22 and I got told in an extremely blunt passing comment... they don’t seem to take this sort of thing that sensitively but don’t hold any emotions back, if you need to rant and shout then send me a little private message just ranting and rambling, don’t worry If it doesn’t make sense it’s just good to get it all out and as I’ve learnt over the last couple days, your never alone on here there are other women who will of gone through the same and be able to fully understand your pain. I haven’t personally gone through IVF or anything like that and I can only imagine the upset caused when it hasn’t worked but I couldn’t not let you know that you will get through this and there’s always another chance or other ways and just to let you know we are here for you 💗💕💗xxx

[Moon_maiden]

So sorry you’re going through this, it must be incredibly painful.

I hope you have lots of support at home. Don’t worry about ranting, the frustration will be maxed out. I hope the doctors can offer the right support as well.

Take care

[FatigueMox]

I think The medical teams tend to deal with our situations in the here and now not what the future consequences maybe.

This time last year as I was going to hospital appointments ahead of surgery I turned up in the maternity wing main reception (couldn’t remember exactly where my appointment was) and cos I am so bloated because of the 11 pound cyst I was carrying) they asked me if I was there for my pregnancy check up!!! I was a) Embarassed and b) Furious.

Good luck going forward

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[L2213]

I’m so sorry to hear your ivf hasn’t worked it’s so hard, be kind to yourself and take it easy. I also have endo and have had 2 failed rounds of ivf and it’s been devastating each time it hasn’t worked but I’m still hopeful and will be doing another round soon.

I don’t know if you are a member already but there’s also another group called fertility network uk and it’s another amazing community of really supportive ladies going through similar experiences if you wanted to join. Are your clinic able to offer you any counselling? It might help. I’m sorry you feel like not wanting to be here. Please reach out to your loved ones and let them know how you feel and remember you aren’t alone.

I hope that you are ok and that your clinic are able to give you some support and help with a plan for next steps. Thinking of you and wishing you all the best xxx

[Goodapple]

Just a note in support of you and your wellbeing during you’re going through right now.

There are good people who wish the very best for you. We hear you and are here for you to listen and care.

Praying that your hopes become reality and that you see better days and can help someone else who’s struggling once you came overcome this.

So sorry you’re going through all of this and I hope that this and all the other messages of support brings you comfort during this distressing time.

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[Mara_Simba]

Don’t give up. I wasn’t able to conceive with IVF because of endo but now waiting for an egg donor and feel optimistic again. When one door closes, there are always other options.

[PaoPetite]

Lovely ladies!

Thank you so much for the support! I thought I prepared myself for the negative result... I kept saying I know it didn’t work but still back in my mind there was this tiny hope.... it is so frustrating when you know you weren’t infertile before... I have two wonderful boys I had them when I was very young and in a very abusive relationship.::. So now that I am with a wonderful man that has showed me his love and support for 12 years it just doesn’t happen with him and I just can’t believe why life is so unfair sometimes..: I know I will be over this difficult time, thank you all for those amazing words! And I also wish one each of us better times... I am so glad I can share my rants and my frustration in this forum without being judged.

All the best to everyone 💛