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My brother tortured me all through my childhood and robbed my mum of thousands.

I got the police to finish with him.

Mum died in 1998.

Fast forward for 8 years I had an elderly friend who made me feel safe and cared about. In April 2020 I found him dead.

He had a best friend Kevin and we kept in touch but Kevin got lung cancer and he would ask me to go shopping. Ofcourse I did. He was my friend. But he wanted alcohol.

Then I get a call that he was in hospital. I visited and brought him some toiletries. He didn't say much cos he was so ill.

Then I met him and a nurse who had escorted him to the appointment at the other hospital

That's when I got the full SP

The lung has collapsed and the cancer has gone to his brain causing banging headaches

Now Kevin's been moved and they couldn't tell me as I'm not next of kin. His wonderful neighbour phoned everywhere.

Kevin has phoned but said he doesn't know where he is

Then he phoned an hour later saying he was calling the police cos of the drug dealing.

Bottom line is he always loved his sister and he never hit her let alone torture her. Before the cancer I spoke to her on his phone and she sounds absolutely lovely

So Kevin is somewhere laying in a bed drugged up day in and out.

It should be that B.....d of my brother suffering like that. Why Kevin?

I have seen the B...d on Facebook smiling away. He's the only person in the world that I hate.

Why can't he be suffering like Kevin?

I have CPTSD cos of my life and Kevin suffering with a sister who loves him. A sister he never slapped let alone abused. He always loved her.

It should be the B.....d not Kevin.

If I had had a younger sibling and I did what he did and robbed my mum of thousands I would be dead from drink and drugs cos I wouldn't be able to live with my conscience.

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chloe40Administrator

Hi Chase888

I can hear how angry you are and I'm so sorry about this situation, it's so frustrating and hurtful for you.

(I have edited the last line {{{hugs}}}

<3

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Chase888 in reply to chloe40

Hello ChloeKevin phone's me but no longer than 5minutes.

I ask where he is and he says he doesn't know.

Other calls he will say "I can't talk"

And I say "but Kevin YOU phoned ME.

I have asked him to give the phone to a staff member but he just says "I'll call you later".

Now his voice mail box is full.

He really is confused.

I just want to be there for him but realistically he is dying and I can't do a thing.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Chase888

I can really understand that Chase888 It must be so upsetting for you. I can't think of who you could contact other than the last hospital administrator perhaps?

<3

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Chase888 in reply to chloe40

Hello Cloe

It's all over. Kevin was in a hospice and his sister had his phone so finally I knew where he was.

He passed away yesterday in the early hours.

They were twins. The poor lady has no other siblings and neither had children.

I will try my best for her.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Chase888

Hi Chase,I'm so very sorry that you've lost Kevin {{{hugs}}} that's so sad especially when you've been searching for him for so long. Now he is at rest and I hope you will be too.

I have no doubt you'll do your best for her and for Kevin too.

Take good care of yourself <3

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Chase888 in reply to chloe40

Hello againIt was about 10days before he died that his sister took the phone so Susan could go through the contacts.

Kevin wasn't using it cos voicemail was full and the battery had died. I know hospitals will charge patients phones. But obviously Kevin was so weak and sedated plus the cancer traveling to his brain had made him confused.

I think I told you about the 3 - 5 minute phone calls and Kevin saying he didn't know where he was and another call when he said he was calling the police because of the drug dealing

When I asked who he said he had to hang up because he needed to call the police.

Susan told me that most of the time he was sedated but when he spoke he said "I saw a fox".

Susan told Kevin I love him and Kevin smiled and closed his eyes.

She was in such a state last night so I have to try to do the right thing whatever that is.

I could organise a memorial service for his friends in London as the funeral will be possibly 2hours by transport.

Not just his friends but people he knew.

But I will ask Susan's permission 1st.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Chase888

I feel for you after all the worrying where and what had happened to him. I'm at least relieved you now know he didn't ignore you and you can finally help his sister to give him a good send off.

Take care Chase888 and don't forget to look after you!

<3

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