advice

[Caza]

I’m in a very sad situation where three very close friends have been diagnosed with terminal cancer. I’m finding it really difficult to know what to say, how to handle it without it affecting my life. I’m sorry if that sounds selfish it’s just that I’m trying so hard to keep my head above the water. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

[Turnipgirl]

No it's not selfish at all and it must have been a right shock for you when you found out.

Selfish in my view is banging on and on when you have been told no to something and won't take no for an answer hoping if you bang on and on you will get your own way regardless of how anyone else feels!

That really is selfish!

I have been accused of being selfish when I refused to give selfish people their own way and never did give into them either!

My advice is take one day at a time if that's any help to you.

[Caza in reply to Turnipgirl]

Yes you’re right. I’m trying really hard to put them out of my head when I’m not with them which makes me feel guilty. I know that things are about to get a lot tougher & I will step up to the mark just sooner not.

[Sandradsn]

It's a really sad time,I don't have any advice really.If we're grieving it's hard to take on more sadness,sometimes I feel it's never ending .I suppose try and be there for your friends when you can and feel up to it yourself.

[Caza in reply to Sandradsn]

Yes it’s true, it is hard to take on more sadness & it just seems that there’s a lot sadness out there atm.

Just wondered if there are widows/widowers out there that could offer advice on how best to help my friends?