My Gran

[EndeavourMorse]

Hi my name is Endeavour and i know this is premature by my gran is dying and i know i am going to lose her sometime i just need someone to talk to please respond to me i feel upset about it because my Gran has brought me up as a baby i am Ok one minute and the next iam crying.

Endeavour

[kenster1 Volunteer]

hi sorry to read your news.its hard but stay strong for your gran if she knows your really hurting it could upset her as well.sounds like an amazing woman ive never had a gran or granda in my life.have you got other family that you could reach out too.

[Greyone]

Hi EndeavourMorse. So sorry to hear about your situation. These early days can be especially worrying, especially when you know how the story ends. Grans are special to us all and yours even more so because she brought you up so you've come here at just the right time.

After losing your father as well you must be feeling extra sad. Do you have other family members and close friends that can console and give you a shoulder to cry on? At this time in the process sharing our grief and feelings can lessen the burden. Comfort yourself by thinking and when you can talking of the good times. That will help you come to terms with this and I think to lessen the grief that will come.

Spend plenty of time with those that can comfort you, don't be afraid to cry together or alone and try not to dwell on what is to come ut let others help you over the bumpy parts.

Good luck and come back soon.

[EndeavourMorse in reply to Greyone]

Thank you for your kind words I have also lost a brother he commited suicide he was 38 years old and i lost an uncle to cancer he was 63 years old these losses were close together i am afraid to cry because people keep telling me to be strong and i feel that they are trying to stop me from crying and my emotions are all confused.

Thank you talking time to talk to me.

if you ever want to talk just message me.

Endeavour

[No1wthayla in reply to EndeavourMorse]

Endeavour, I have lost a lot of family members in the past 3 years ( mother-in-law who I loved very much [just this January], grandmother, father, uncle) and a grandfather (5 years) plus my mom 10 years ago. It never gets easy. I cry on different days for different people. I remember little snippets of our times together and smile or laugh. I think of hard times that we fought through, just trying to get by and stretching every dollar or arguing over petty things.

Don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't be grieving anymore. They are not you and all people grieve differently. And some of us grieve the lose of someone long before they pass. My mom fought cancer for nearly 4 years.

It's hard to watch a loved one so close to the end. Your gran might want to talk to you about her death. She probably loves you so much she would want to know that you would be alright when she passes. She knows that you love her.

[Esther228]

Hi Endeavor,

I know what you mean about grieving prematurely. I did that same thing in preparation for my mother’s passing. I wonder if that is just how we cope with knowing that we can’t change the circumstances. It doesn’t lessen the pain of the loss, but for me, it did help me to start to adjust to the fact that my mother would no longer be here with me. It’s just difficult! Painful! And it is life-changing.

I pray that you continue to reach out to folks for help during this time of grief. You are not alone, I know you may not feel that way, but you are among friends and people who have gone through similar circumstances.

One comfort that I found is in knowing that no matter what, God is always with me and will never leave me. I find comfort in His truths and by reading my Bible. I pray that you find comfort in the days to come. Please let me know if I can help. I am praying for you, your Gran, and your family.

[EndeavourMorse in reply to Esther228]

Thank you for your very kind message iam finding it hard at the moment it is nice to know that i have a friend like you that understands i am so sorry about you mother you must have felt devastated by her passing please talk to me if you need a friend my Gran has brought me up as a baby with her husband who died in 2006. i would like to carry on talking to you maybe we can be friends i would love that.

Take care remember i am here if you need me.

from

Endeavour - Stafford Morse

[Esther228 in reply to EndeavourMorse]

Hi there, how are you doing today? Yes, losing my mother was a terrible blow. I still mull over some of our last moments together. I do have peace about where she is though and that helps me when I am missing her presence.

I am here for you, my friend. I pray that your day is going well and that you are feeling at peace. Please reach out any time you need someone to talk with or if you have a prayer request.