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Hi

People keep telling me that I am better but I don't feel better I still wake up crying and I know that is going to be with me for the rest of my life it is the depression that is causing the trouble people keep telling me to look to the future I don't like people saying that to me. maybe is because I don't have a future with this depression I am always crying with this depression but it is all linked to the bereavements that I have endured.

I Will be crying for the rest of my life it won't go away even if I want it to.

I can't stand being around babies or children because they make me cry when they cry.

I iam not better far from it.

I need to talk to people not so much face to face but something like a chat forum like this.

Stafford (Staff)

I Just want to be loved

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Hi STAFFORD

I'm so sorry you're feeling so depressed. If you have been feeling this way for a while, maybe a chat with you Doctor may help. You could also look online for local support groups, where you can attend once a week and meet new people who understand how sad you are feeling, it will also give you confidence. Some even have telephone support, where you contact each other when you need that extra help.

Chloe

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Hi Chloe

I Tried talking to the doctor he says he can't do anything He had referred me to the mental health team but I didn't have much joy with them they said I wasn't bad enough for there services.

I will try online support I haven't heard of any where I live.

thank you for replying

Stafford

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STAFFORD You could try the Shaw Mind Forum on HU, just browse communities and put in there name. Hope it helps Staff x

Chloe

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Staff

Really sorry to hear you are feeling so sad. It is hard to get your life sorted out after a Bereavement and a lot if people don't understand that.

I am still struggling since my husband died in February. I have been trying to do one thing every other day. Have managed to sort some things out and feel better as a result. However there are other things I just can't face and nobody understands. I don't think I do to be honest! It is how it is?

Chloe's idea to join a group is a good one. Are there any walking groups near you? Or groups who meet for coffee? Anything at all will do. Even residents groups?

It might not be what you are interested in but you will meet other people and who knows you might find you get interested in whatever it is? You will eventually make new friends too.

Sad to say the NHS is on it's knees and you will probably wait a very long time to get help. However ask your doctor for counselling sessions. You might have to wait 5 months but at least you will be on tge list? In the meantime you could join a group and start living again?

I am going to look up groups in my area and join them! I might be bored silly but it will get me out and make me realise I am not the only one with problems? If things get too bad ring the Samaritans as they don't judge but they listen.

Best wishes to you. You seem like a nice person who just needs a helping hand or two.

Marie

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STAFFORD

HI This Stafford

Iam a female not a male person

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STAFFORD

Thank you changing it

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Midori

Cruse is a specialist bereavement counselling service which runs in most areas of the UK. I found them very helpful after I was bereaved.

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Hi STAFFORD Staff,

How are you getting on?

Chloe

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STAFFORD

Hi I have been ill with IBS last weekend first day out today.

and my depression has been not to good I went to mind today I do voluntary work there. I Had to help a friend out today she was crying because her dog is seriously ill they don't know what's wrong with him he keep being sick everywhere and has the runs and he is coughing up phlegm.

so I was comforting her she nearly made me cry as well but I was ok. I love her dog he is a loving companion to my friend Ann she would be devastated if anything happens to it and to top it all off a friend of ours has died Geoff he went to our church and the memorial is on Friday and Ann is going to it I can't be I am going up the my gran's I would have gone.

I am also looking on line for meditation and chat lines for my depression.

Hope you are OK

Stafford

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