Miss my dad

[Smileinthedowntime]

Dads funeral tomorrow I don’t no how to get through it . I wnt sleep tonight just want it over . The hardest ever time in my life .its getting me panicking about death I really hope thers another place after life like my dads just in another room untill I meet him with the rest of the family . I miss him so much 😔💔

[Clarrisa]

Yes, losing a parent is a big deal. It is so hard to capture & put into words one’s feelings on the loss of a parent, but you have done just that so well.

As Ecclesiastes says “To every thing there is a season ...” It is sadly a time to weep. You will be in my thoughts & prayers as you experience a time to mourn at your father’s funeral. God bless you.

[MEW53]

Hope the funeral goes ok. I remember when my Dad passed away in 2011 how upsetting it was but he’s in a better place now. I surprised myself on the day as there were so many old friends and family that we hadn’t seen for many years that came it made the day go by in a more positive way with all the reminiscing that went on.

Take care🌻

[Midori in reply to MEW53]

The funeral is a time to get together with other folk who are also mourning your Dad; in different ways to you, sure, but they will all miss him in one way or another. Please go. You don't need to be strong, and it will help you to see there are others around grieving too. A funeral is a way for folk to get together and remember him, sharing stories and anecdotes, and bringing back more happy memories. You are not alone in your grief.

[JOLLYDOLLY]

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It is is heartbreaking to lose someone we love and cherish.

I think somehow, when we are facing a funeral or celebration, we gain strength from somewhere, because of the love we have for those who have passed.

Hope all goes well and sending you love and strength to get through this difficult time.

<3

[Smileinthedowntime]

Thankyou I dunno how but I mustard it but i got a strength like no other . It was an amazing send off for my amazing dad . Jus gotta learn to live without him now.. guess take day by day xx

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Smileinthedowntime]

Hi there Smileinthedowntime

You've coped very well getting yourself through the funeral {{{hugs}}} I can't pretend it will be easy from here on but reach out for support wherever you can find it, you'll need as much support as you an find, and remember, we're always here for you to chat with and to ask questions too!

Take good care of yourself

Chloe

[JOLLYDOLLY in reply to Smileinthedowntime]

I agree with Chloe40, you are not alone. Just take one day at a time, there is no time limit on grief and never give in to others and their negative comments, we all grieve differently and for different reasons.

I don't know if you cared for your dad prior to his passing, but if you did, be kind to yourself. I am still trying to find a "new normal" if there is such a thing. I can't say it gets easier, but it is certainly different.

When I am having a bad day, I always think, they would want me to be happy - somehow, that gets me through the day.

Take care

[Smileinthedowntime in reply to JOLLYDOLLY]

Thankyou kindly .. my family are brilliant an we r all ther for each other jus sumtimes nice to not put ur struggles on them as ther grieving aswell... miss him so much tho it’s hard but I’m ok. Xx

[JOLLYDOLLY in reply to Smileinthedowntime]

Grief is not easy at all. I never ever thought it was as cruel as I have found it. So many different emotions to deal with. Take care of yourself xx

[Midori]

It will take time, and don't let folk bully you by saying 'get over it.' Grief doesn't work to a timetable, it tales as long as it takes. In the meantime, treat yourself gently, each day will be different. If you have a down day, indulge yourself, don't try to live up to anybody else's expectations.

[Hidden]

It is heart breaking when you lose someone you love so dearly. It is only natural to feel sad and to not want to eat or enjoy life. You had hoped your dad would improve and imagining the worst scenario has come true. Every one has their own beliefs and you should keep your father's image near you and know everything he has done to help you and the love he showed you is still with you. You will think of him every day, but have to remember he would not want you to grieve so you can't pick up the thread and go on. Hope you get a lot of support from friends and family. You have a lot of love to give in your life so don't let the future be scarred with your loss.

[Lperica10]

I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. I lost my dad in oct 2016 so if you ever need to talk please reach out. It was the most difficult time leading up to, during, and after. Please take care of yourself and do not be too hard on yourself. Grieve at your own pace.

[Smileinthedowntime in reply to Lperica10]

Thankyou.. I returned to work today . I’ve been off 3 weeks in total An work are very supportive. I did ok I coped an managed but as I walked out I broke . I seem to hav little cry’s here an ther but I believe my dad is giving me strength to get through each day an goin to wrkgives me a focus an normality again . Sumthing to get me up an ready.. miss him so much it’s hurtin I no it’s day by day but the reality of never seeing him again or anything is destroying. It’s a heartache u only know if uv been through it xx

[Lperica10 in reply to Smileinthedowntime]

Yes everything you said is so normal for what just happened. I had all the same feelings and thoughts. It is hard. People told me it would get better with time but at the time it’s too hard to hear that /grasp that. It just happened. I replayed a lot in my head at first. Conversations, time spent together, etc. then there was the task of cleaning out his entire house and selling it. I took 5 weeks off of work and yes they were supportive too. Do you have siblings or family support?