I'm so happy to have found the forums on this site. They have helped immensely with my anxiety, depression, and bereavement. I have a couple questions I hope people can answer.
Here are my questions. My back story behind them is below if you would like to read it.
1) Has anyone here experienced delayed bereavement, and if so, how did you cope?
2) Has anyone here ever had experience with a hired senior advocate?
Firstly, I believe I may be experiencing a bit of delayed bereavement. I lost my grandfather last year (at age 87). He was like a second father figure to me and I sought advice and solace from him for the last few years (I lost my father when I was 17, 10 years ago now). Six weeks after my grandfather passed I put down my dog who I had had since I was 11 (he was 16 and ill). Soon after that I changed jobs and moved across country.
I feel that with the upheavals in my life last year, I didn't really get to properly mourn for him. It's almost like my mourning was put on hold and now it's manifesting itself. But it's also adding to my anxiety. A few weeks ago I experienced a trigger and have been struggling with my anxiety and depression for the last 4 weeks (I'm normally able to enjoy life with just 40mg Celexa which helps my depression). One of the things I'm worried about is from when I saw my grandfather at the end of his life. If he hadn't had my aunt and I to advocate for him, he would not have gotten the good treatment that he did (they did the best they could, but they were understaffed).
This has me anxious about when I am in a nursing home. I am currently single (27) and worried that if I don't find someone and have kids, I'll be alone when I'm in a nursing home and have no one to advocate for me or handle my finances when I am unable to do so. There are people here (I live in the USA) who I can hire to be my advocate, but I'm unsure about them as I don't know if they'll fight as hard as a friend or family member would.