Feel all we do is go round in circles.

Is this normal. We seem to go through the same thing every month. Is the norm with anxiety. 8 Months down the line and things seem no better. The only thing it seems to have done is made me less emotional about things.

[Hidden]

I agree lou,

I feel the meds I'm on are dulling me. It's only been two months for me but I feel no different. I'm on Sertraline 100mg. I feel tense a lot, I relax for a while then realise how tense I am again. It's frustrating I know but I guess it will take as long as it takes for each of us.

Try not to dwell, I know, easier said than done. Xxx

[Tig2 in reply to Hidden]

Hello I am Tracey. Today I woke up gasping for breath. My insides seized up. Anyone who tell you, you cannot die from this must be lying. You cannot sleep in this condition. Telling sufferers to relax and ignore it are lying, I think. I have it it all day long and seem to do pointless breathing exercises nearly all day long to control it. I feel I can understand you. The treatment are non existant and you wake up just as bad as before!!!! Unless there is proper treatment for the brain we are never going to get better. Breathing can only calm it for so long. Distraction is the same. I either breathe too soft or too hard. AND the breathing exercises never produce the same result twice!!! I feel hopeless do you?

[Jason1990]

I'm in the same boat. I feel pretty calm , yet my body just seems to make me think I'm going to die any minute.???? And this even happens now I've come to terms with the fact I have anxiety?? So yeah, I do feel like I'm going round in a big circle. I Hope you get better soon.

[Hidden]

Its my partner who has the anxiety. He just cuts himself off. I have a flip out every month as it builds up the not seeing him, etc etc. I know its not easy anxiety but its hard for the other partner aswell. He isnt on any medication and waiting counselling, that has taken for ever. I keep saying he has to ring the docs up but it doesnt happen through no fault of his own. Thanks guys. xx

[sheffieldwed]

Hi lou same here i thought i was getting better then bang its back again i get the most weirdest symptoms and feel like i am going crazy with them like now i feel dizzy every day and at the mo its getting me down and worried but dont know if its the meds or me making it worse with my anxiety and feel like no one seems to understand the way i feel so then i worry more thinking i have something wrong its mentally draining day in day out xxxxxx

[Tig2 in reply to sheffieldwed]

No can undrstand it, I think. It is never dealt with properly and until they deal with the physical or mental symptons it will go on. Breathing and distraction never really work well. It isn't being understood or adressed with right treatment. Nurses tell you this but anyone could say tjis and they're being paid to issue this useless treatment!

[Pickle165]

anxiety and depression for me is like being stuck on a rollercoaster and you cant get off, sometimes the ride slows right down for a while and can even come to a stop for some but then from out of nowhere your in full blown loop the loop again. i sometimes feel that i will never get rid of this and that really the aim is to learn to cope and not recover? x

[Hidden]

Thats how i class it as a rollercoaster ride. You dont know whats around the next corner. Its one day at a time. He is so tired and just lifeless. Its been ongoing for ages. I havent seen him for a couple of months. Once a month for a few days he will close down and not speak to anyone. Its constant. x

[seyi]

Hi lou So sorry things are not good right now but better days hopefully will come. Anxiety is a circle and that is something we need to try and break out from. Also facing what makes you fearful and try and talk to make people around you understand. Medication and make you tired and anxiety can be exhausting as if you have run a marathon. Each persons case is unique and everyone has a way of dealing with things that is sometimes closing down not talking to get their head around what is happening. All this can be scary.

I sincerely hope you sort things out try and be patient although i know its not easy and does affect the partner.

Take care

Love Seyi xx

[Tig2 in reply to seyi]

Do people really undestand this?

[fadedlizard]

Hiya Lou,

I think one of the worst things about anxiety is this feeling that you're in a loop. My anxiety comes in waves and I do have good patches. Sometimes they go on for quite a while and and I think I've got out, I'm through it and then it rolls back up again out of nowhere and swamps me.

Also I have learnt to manage it. I can get through the days. In certain places I'm ok but I don't realise how small I have made my life in order to do this. If I have to work outside my circle (ie talk to friends on the phone ~ you know, nothing big) I can't manage. It seems all I do is sleep and go to work.

I realise none of this is helpful to you; doesn't even answer you question but it's all I have.

Take Care

Love

Lizard.xxx

[Hidden]

Hey FL

It does answer my question. The feeling you are in a loop sums it up like you wouldnt believe. Thanks for that. Also what Seyi says makes sense. I have told my OH he seems so absorbed in feeling down. He agrees, its just trying to find a way to get out of it. We seem to get somewhere and then something comes along and knocks him again. I am dealing with his periods of silence better. xx

[Hidden]

Hi, lou,

Your husband and myself are very lucky to have such supportive partners. Thank you because you may not feel it at times but it does help us. I don't thank my OH nearly enough coz I get so wrapped up in my own feelings.

So a big thank you to you and all the other partners out there coping with our problems as well as their own xxxx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Awww bless ya for that Cookiepatch, What a lovely thing to say. I do feel like he is oo wrapped up in himself. Not my hubbie:-). We dont live together and since august i have only seen him about 5 times. 1 weekend which he was on another planet. Just got to ride the rollercoaster, and fingers crossed hope for a let up soon. You dont walk away from people when they are poorly.........................even though at times i do feel like it. Thanks though, them words have made my day. xxx

[fudge]

Yes, totally agree. Think we will just have to cope and live with it, rather than being cured!!

[Tig2 in reply to fudge]

I agree. Breathing exercises just seem the only thing tò say just to give hope! Sorry for the depressing post. Some people who say they get better might not have had it bad in the first place, or get lucky! It keeps coming back every morning.