Why me..

[Canon]

That's all I can say is why me??

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Hi. Canon. The perennial question. Why me? I think the soldier, going into battle, must have asked the same question and there is no short answer. I think we all feel that fate has dealt us a cruel blow by making us have these feelings when others seem to go through life without a care (or so it appears). There was a recent set of posts about how someone had emerged from this misery and felt that it had been worthwhile because they realised that it had cleared away the old self and a new self had emerged. A more caring and understanding self. Now this will not be much use to you at the moment and it is about the only explanation I can give you. Platitudes are not much use when you suffer as you are, but it seems that, throughout the ages, nothing good seems to have come about without a degree of suffering. If it was that easy to change everyone would be at it. Your problem and my problem and everyone on this site's problem is that we are sensitive people. We did not ask for this and it has been thrust upon us. We have to deal with it as best we can. Please do not abandon us as there is a lot to be had from the courageous people here. And you are courageous whatever you may think of yourself at the moment. You battle on but do it the wrong way. The right way? Well, I can only go by my own experience, but accepting how you feel; not fighting and struggling worked for me, but it is not everyone's way. Please try and bear up for the moment. recovery is very possible I can assure you. Love and blessings. jonathan.

[stde]

I have been where you are now, and to see a better is difficult,but believe me it can happen. here is something that helped me, although at the moment it may be difficult-------Life is full of "events", a death of someone close--an injury--winning the lottery--falling in love--falling of a bus. And yes we as humans label them good/bad and some are---but the more meaning and dramatisation and emotional reaction we put to these"Events" the more we are on an emotional rollercoaster (ie the higher the wave the deeper the trough). So we must try to see happenings as life events and try to accept that we cannot escape them--THEY WILL HAPPEN---but we can choose how we react...... with lifes experience i viewed it as another "LIFE EVENT" and was fortunate to accept what was happening to me---It was my turn.

Acceptance will come before change.....god bless

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Hi. stde. I agree, action is done without thought. If we saw a child in the road and a bus was coming we would dash over and grab the child; without thought! But as soon as the danger was over the RE-ACTION sets in and we get in a state about what COULD have happened. Choosing how we RE-ACT is the key. Thanks for the post. Hope you are well. Blessings and Best wishes. jonathan.

[ellabella]

Hi Canon, I know what you mean. I think you are doing marvelous going to work and coping very well!. I had to go to an interview at DHSS a little while ago and I was terrified! I was in such a state I couldn't believe it? When the day came I knew I had to go and I just got ready and went, nobody was bothered what I was like and nobody stared at me. Well if they did I never saw them. The upshot of this is nothing is ever as bad as we imagine it to be, you will get through this, honestly make sure you write things down that you may need to ask so you don't forget as the time will fly by. Thinking of you , lots of love x Ella x

[ellabella]

Sorry Canon, I didn't explain what I was talking about ! just shows my mind is wandering!! I'm thinking of you going to see someone on the 21st is it??? Don't be scared , you will be fine , we are all routing for you friend xxxx