Why

[lambosh67]

Why do the ones you love tell other people they love them but can't tell you even know you are there for them everyday and supports them with everything through think and thin it makes you feel like shit and just go on with life thinking off them self but never mind you still them regards less but sometimes it is nice to be loved back

[Hidden]

I think sometimes our family and friends take it for granted that we love them and I suppose they may also take it for granted that we know they love us back.

Sometimes I put "love you" at the end of my text messages - and this sometimes prompts them to respond in the same way. I find it hard to actually say in words and find it easier by text. I think my son is the same because he hardly ever says it to my face - but he sometimes says it in a text message. Aren't we silly !!!

Hope this reply helps

X

[lambosh67 in reply to Hidden]

I know some people can't say it face to face but every now and then it is nice to hear

[Helpmebirmingham]

Hi.

I have just been through a similar thing with my partner just this morning about putting other first and not considering my feelings and my illness etc.

Relationships? Why do we bother they just ad to the stress of this so called 'LIFE'

[lambosh67 in reply to Helpmebirmingham]

Total agree with you but as we all ways been told we should not assume as we never know how some people are feeling my other half suffers with anxiety and panic attacks and has never been able to show their feelings only when they have been drinking and then it is mix emotion so you still don't know where you stand so life is very stressful as I work in mental health and come home and make sure my other half is ok I worry when I am at work about my other half and when I am walking home I find myself thinking what am I going to walk into and that is life

[Hidden]

lambosh I am so sorry because I understand exactly what you are saying but can offer no explanation.

My wife is my carer and a better person you could not find.She helps me ...she loves me........she makes sacrifices for me........she loses sleep over me and yet I seldom thank her.Some one that I hardly know can do the smallest thing for me and I fall over myself to thank them.How that makes my wife feel I shudder to think.

I know it's wrong but somehow you expect your o/h carer.....wife.......partner to always be there and carry on regardless. It's wrong and unfair I know but you really always do hurt the one you love.And yes I feel ashamed of myself.

Grog

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[lambosh67 in reply to Hidden]

You don't need to feel a shame just let her know how much you love her and how much you care tell her every day as life is so special when you have got he one you standing right next to you

[Hidden in reply to lambosh67]

you are so right

Good luck and good fortune to you

Grog

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[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hi grog,

Yup, you naughty boy

Go give you otherhalf a big cuddle and tell her how special she is to you.

She deserves it and you deserve to be able to do it too.

B

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[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Ouch! slapped wrists hurting!

Yes B I sometimes find it hard to thank those that deserve it most.

Nice to hear from you

Grog

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[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hi grog,

Me too and thats why I said the above. It really is a block to our healing.

I cant even touch my parents, I'm ok with my wife and son, but it is a problem that needs sorting, and I'm guessing for both of us.

All the best

B

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