Problems at work getting me down ...

[Canon]

Sorry I know I may be going on bit but I don't really know wot to do.. At work I'm having problems with someone coz when I went back after having about 7 months off I couldn't go back in to my job as its looking after staff. And that was fine go in slowly i thought but now been over a year and still not doing my job someone else is standing in for me ! But the thing is its now getting me down as I feel I'm not good enough to do it and that they don't want me back doing it? I am still getting the money for it but the person who is in my place is making things very hard for me as yes they do want to take my job from me.. But Im thinking that people be saying I'm dreaming all of it so I don't know wot to do....? Tx

[GADsufferer]

Hi Canon, thank your for your comment and you are certainly not going on. This site is here for us to talk to each other about what were thinking or concerned about. I too have had problems with my work but mainly due to the amount of time I have had off. If you don't mind me asking what do you do for work?

Sometimes it can be hard for people in the workplace to understand what we have or are going through. I find this is due to stigma and an expectation of "they need to pull themselves together". If only it was that easy right ? Having said that not everyone has that opinion and I have been very surprised with some colleagues views and support.

What would you like to happen with your work situation? Do you want to get back into your normal job ?

[Canon]

Hi GADstufferer thanks... My work is very mush like a supervisor in a factory ..and yes I would like to go back to my job as if I don't I feel I'm going to feel more and more a failure as I'm no good at any thing else I'm not even sure I will be able to do that jet but iv got to try ! but work are saying at the moment they would raver me not jet as they haven't got the support in place for me jet ? But I don't know.....don't get me wrong they have been good to me but ? Tx

[GADsufferer]

Hi Canon, whatever happens you are most definitely not a failure ! I understand why you want to get back to your normal job... I am the same. What sort of support are they suggesting they need to put in place ?

Is there not a way that you could talk to your bosses about how you feel. Being keen to get back to your normal job can only be seen as a positive thing by them. Not sure how things are at your work but could you suggest setting a timeline or action plan for you returning to your normal role. Maybe starting with one day a week and then slowly increasing the days until you are back to normal hours ?

At least if a plan was put in place you would feel as if you are working towards getting back to the job rather then being left questioning.

[sthemotlee]

Hi Canon. We do sometimes defeat ourselves by prejudging circumstances in their worst light of possibility. Every encounter can become dreaded. Not normal behaviour. But I have been there. For quite a protracted period in my life, and I have played many mind games with myself to change perspectives and views. Check your cv and if it is you within the cv, you must look to what might have changed your self belief. A short term measure would be to take a course of Iron and multivitamins to see if your psychology has been draining your strength. Please try this. If you then start to feel angry about your present perspective, you have probably been pushing yourself too hard. Best wishes and be patient with yourself.

sincerely. Paul

[Canon]

thank u all ..and yer i will have to talk to them again the the problem is every time i go to talk to them i get my self worked up and just end up crying and then getting no way.....

Tx

[Canon in reply to Canon]

SORRY NO WHERE...