Can't Stop Thinking About Dying.

[aberkaz]

Hi, about 15 yrs ago I went through a stage obsessing about my own mortality. Lately it seems to have reappeared, there has been no trigger but it is effecting me and especially at night. I keep telling myself it is inevitable and there is no point wasting my life worrying about something that I can’t control, but I am lying in bed at night panicking about not existing. I realise the positive to this is it gives me the inspiration to live my life to the full but I would like it to stop. Any advice?

[Cleaner]

Hi aberkaz. Sorry I can't give you any advise but to say that you are not the only one to keep thinking of dying all the time. It's seems to take over me sometimes. Take care x

[ellabella]

There is nothing worse than laying awake at night when you think everyone else is asleep Kaz. All sorts of things go through your head and if you obsess on one particular thing it is worse. I feel for you love and I think it might be good if you read when you are awake or get a cup of tea...anything except think about awful things. You are here sweetheart...and you are here for a reason. Keep posting! @ Cleaner, hi there! nice to hear from you. It is good to know we are not alone Love and Hugs to you both xxxxxxxxx

[rouri]

you should see me, i am like fabricating a movie, like when i die and where will i go and what will be there, how would i live my daily life? would it be boring?? ahh too many random horrible thoughts that comes from nowwhere and can be anytime of the day.

what i do sometimes is just thinking of something else, watch nice movie in the evening or now Master Chef love it too bits and search the internet on homemade remedies for my situation. it also helps to do a small prayer before going to bed, i used to have nightmares until i put a picture of the Virgin Mary inside my pillow, not sure if you believe but i am strong believer and it does help, then i know i will be safe

my mum is obssesed now with this thought, it is tough as eveyone she know now is passing away and they live on the same street, she is only 61 but she is so scared of dying, not sure why too many people with anxiety and depression think about death!!

big hug

rouri

[Hidden]

I am living with this exact problem especially at bed time. My mind tells me that I'm not going to wake up and that's when all the physical stuff starts until in the end I think sod it if it happens it'll have to happen and when I wake in the mornings it's such a shock! It doesn't help that my mum believes that when people have died they knew it was their time because they did such and such just before............now I spend all day wondering if these little moments are my last, sorry going on a bit there. But yes I do exactly the same and unfortunatly I have no tips as its just driving me mad!!!!! Although at first these thoughts were all day long that I was going to drop dead all of a sudden and I haven't yet. But now it's mostly at bedtime.

So please if anyone can help please help xx

[Pennylayne]

Death is the big unknown .......we all wonder about it and whether there is life after death etc, not surprising that those of us who struggle with anxiety spend a bit more time that average thinking about it.

I can honestly say that there is never a day that I don't think about it in a sort of 'dread' way, and it is often my first thought when I wake up.

I can't really give you advice other than to say it's really common. When the thought comes I then say to myself ok .....I'll do that another time, right now I'm going to do such and such, sort of distract myself and it works most of the time.

Take Care PL

[Pennylayne]

PB1999.........I went through a phase like that, I used to feel that my heart would stop and that would be it and I had convinced myself there was something wrong with it.

I sort of knew deep down that there wasn't but it's illogical.

My Dad was the same and kept talking about passing away from his 50's onwards, he lived to be 83 ......many years of thinking he was about to go any day now and I sort of think to myself, it made absolutely no difference, just drove my mother crazy.

So I use distraction techniques as much as possible and don't give the thoughts too much 'oxygen' or let them get too established telling myself that it is just an anxiety symptom, I have better things to think about like living however long that may be.

Also it helps me a little to think ......well whenever I go it's ok so I'm chilled out about it ......if I repeat that 'thought' enough it seems to stick a bit at any rate.

[Melgil58]

Hiya Kaz I wrote a blog about this the other day about how we axiety sufferers are always asking our selves questions about everything about us health wise dying wise have I got this illness or that illness will I die soon or when we don't know god or whoever didn't give us a diary with a date in it when we were created as to when it will happen but don't live as though everyday is your last live your life you won't stop thinking about your mortality but you've been thinking about this for sometime and life has gone on anxiety sufferers don't like the nights the dark and lie awake waiting for the morning to come mind working at a 100 miles per hour if anxiety comes in the night make yourself a drink if your alone listen to the radio late night teles usually rubbish but its your choice try to relax its soothing to hear a human voice who talks quieter than people do during a hectic day . I've had the same thoughts as you at night I've even spent time going through my music collection to pick the music for my funeral that's the way we think but I've got over it or better than I was by logically thinking about it it will come but not yet a while I hope these thoughts will not go away because we think about them continuously there on a loop in our thoughts until we find something else to replace them I hope you find happier thoughts to replace them I wish you well. Mel

[aberkaz]

Thank you for taking your time to answer my question. Even if it is to say you feel the same. It is comforting to know other people also think like me, over analyse & I'm not alone in my thoughts xx

[Angeldfj87 in reply to aberkaz]

I also have the same exact problem an I'm a Christian so I've talked to 2 other Christians an I'm also going to talk my pastor tomorrow after service I tend to think abt me dying after I pray at night I was told the devil knows ur fears so if ur Afraid of death the devil will feed off that an make ur fears worse I just started worry abt dying just a few months ago an I always thought u Kno when ur gonna die so I've been panicking thinking the reason I think abt dying is bcuz I'm close to death but I guess that isn't the case after I talk to my pastor abt it I'll post what he believes it is

[Bramwell]

It seems to be a common thing with anxiety sufferers and I'm no exception. I have periods of thinking about it but then I move on to another worry for a while!

[Hidden]

Hi. aberkaz. Surely this is very human? I doubt whether there is anyone alive who does not think about death. We are back to the same problem with us anxiety sufferers. We EXAGERATE everything. Feel a bit dizzy and we have a brain tumour, 'Jelly legs' and we are having a stroke! Why can't we live in the now? That's all we have anyway. We have to try not to dwell on this; but introspection is another symptom! Animals enjoy life because they do not walk around all day wondering if they are going to die. Bramwell is right; if we lose one worry we go looking for another. We do not seem to be 'happy' unless we find one. God!! This is a funny old illness! Love. jonathan.

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[ellabella]

Yes, I'm no exception either. I think about it when I am very depressed and sometimes go to sleep hoping I don't wake up . That comes and it goes as well. I'm still here.....Seriously yes if I am awake at night I don't lie there trying to sleep. It's a recipe for disaster...I read, make a drink, have some background noise of any kind. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[hairyfairy]

I sometimes worry about dying these days. I never gave it much thought when I was younger because young people seem to think themselves immortal & I was no exception. The trouble with being close to my 60th birthday, I`m more preocupied with thoughts that time may be running out. All these adverts on the tv aimed at the over 50`s, telling us to take out payment schemes to pay for our funerals, & these idiots who go around saying " life is short" are making us confront our mortality whether we want to or not. I usually distract myself from these kind of thoughts by going online or watching something entertaining on tv.

[Hidden]

Hi. hairy. You are so right. They give you the willies!! My old grandmother who was 101 when she died and had all her marbles up to the end, used to say "Ignore them, they just talk rubbish". They either try and frighten you or are trying to sell you something. It is all based on fear, is it not. We are fearful that our washing isn't as white as next doors, or the kids aren't so well educated as the neighbours, or the car isn't as good as my best friend's. So we go out and spend money to rectify the situation. Of course life is short. If we humans could live to be 500 years old that would be too short!! I wonder if elephants feel this way? We do get in a pickle, don't we? (Try selling funeral insurance to an elephant!). I think that facing the fact that life is short and then carry on doing our thing may be the answer. What else to do anyway?. Love. jonathan.

[amyloubarritt]

Hi, I am the same. Before I had children, I longed to die. I never planned for old age as I was always obsessing about the best way to kill myself. I was waiting for my Mum to pass away first as she has already lost one child. Things have totally changed now as I have people dependent upon me. I think about it a lot but know its not an option anymore. Its left me in a muddle as I've not taken out a pension etc. I've also developed an obsession, watching Dr G, Medical Examiner It honestly does not help matters I think finding things in life that truly mean something to you helps. I think about death more when life feels toxic. x

[woodbon]

It;s one of my obsessions too, Even though I've seen people die piecefully, both at work (care assistant ) a loved one. When I've been presant I've felt a sense of peace in the room and relief too, but I'm still frightened about my own death. Maybe its human natures way of making us be careful with our life??xx

[Smellyellie14]

I'm only 10 years old and I can't stop thinking about how old I'll be when i die and when I will lose my family if you've got any ideas about how to try and forget about it please help me

[Hidden in reply to Smellyellie14]

I used to have this fear, but I do not have it anymore. I'm a Christian so believe in Heaven. If you so too, I found reading material on it, such as books about Heaven and books about those who have gone and come back or have died and been revived. I'm no longer afraid of death. In fact, instead of thinking it as inevitable doom, I think of it as inevitable eternity. It really helps shift your perspective.

[jeffkaale]

hey man stop worrying, everything in life is connected and you were brought here for a purpose. You will not leave this planet unless you have done what you needed to do.

so chill out bro, everything gonna be alright

[Josieuk94]

I know exactly how you feel its horrible sometimes mind shuts down and i shake all over and cry my eyes up snd panic really bad... Im up now thinking about it i cant sleep all i wish is for this to go away im a mother of twins 1 years and 5 year old so i really should be getting my rest and i cant sleep i stay ip all ours and dont want to get out bed the next day so glad my partner helps me but im not living! I constantly think something is really wrong but im afraid to go to the doctors i refuse to go i am on depression tabs atm but dont seem to be helping me with this late nights thinking of death.... Its so horrible i wish it would go away no one understands me people just think im crazy. If anyone has any advice please give... I hope all others going through the same manage to find away of getting out this horrible deep hole we cant seem to get our selfs out

[Katykinze18]

Hi I hope this helps you, it helped me get over exactly this problem ...

It is not worth worrying about .. Simple as that. The likely hood is that you won't even know you've died when you do, it happens so fast.like falling asleep! It's as peaceful as that. And isn't it a wonderful thought to be asleep in a wonderful dream for ever more?!

I am not religious. I'm a matter of fact thinker. Heaven or re-incarnation or living on a cloud somewhere watching the rest of the world below you change over time are all lovely thoughts. None of them can be proven to be true or false. No one knows! No one will ever be able to tell you, it's an exciting thing that you'll find out when you've had your chance at exploring this world. I don't like suprises but I think that's one I'll look forward to, so I can go to myself, 'oh so that's what happens!' And 'what a plonker I was for spending so much time worrying about it!'

The only thing you should worry about is getting to the point of your life (MANY YEARS FROM NOW!) and think either am I happy about life and glad to accept death? Or no I don't want to accept death because I'm not content with life yet.

Make that change! Be the person on their death bed with a massive smile on your face because you had a wonderful life with great opportunities and experiences and memories! Leave a legacy leave your mark! Whether that be a family you made or a change to politics or to a way of thinking or in a building you designed or what ever! Make sure everyone knows you were here! Don't be the person on the death bed wishing they didn't spend so much time over thinking and worrying about what's next instead of going out and making a fantastic life for themselves!

It's all in your perspective! Be thankful for your blessings, be thankful for your eyes that you can see a smile, be thankful for your ears to hear a laugh! Believe in magic because you are magic just being here! You didn't exist for millions of years and did it effect you at all? No! So stop worrying, change your perspective! Let go of the negativity and realise that you are stronger than this! Don't waste time worrying! Spend time living!!!!!!

I really hope this helps you! I was in such a rut and then was just getting fed up with myself! Don't battle yourself. Just love yourself. Love the fact that you are so educated that you can even consider these feelings! But go and do something productive with your brain, don't worry about death. We're all in this together.

Sending lots of love your way

(Sorry for the essay!)

Xxxxxxxx

[Hidden in reply to Katykinze18]

Okay sorry but wow your comment actually comforted me so much. Thank you.

[hayleyholaqetal in reply to Katykinze18]

this reply is one of the best replies i've ever seen on this topic. I almost want to copy and paste it and stick it in my journal. Thank you so much.

[djonmars1973]

I know this post is 3 years old and I,m hoping your fear has passed now. I,m going through exactly the same as you.I am 61and the difference is I'd never experienced this until last month when I heard David Bowie had died. I get terrible frightening thoughts about this world without me. I am receiving counselling at this time but wonder whether stress has brought this on which my mother being ill, I don't know.

[Soooo-anxious]

I feel this way all the time I can't get relief from it

[Soooo-anxious]

I feel like this constantly I can't get relief

[Olliedecartret21]

Hi everybody I am a 14 year old boy and I worry about death so much sometimes I have moments I have panic attacks I have worried about the thought of dying now for 2 years can anybody help me please!X

[Hidden in reply to Olliedecartret21]

Just remember it's all in your mind. Be aware that if something was going to happen it already would've, you've been like this for two years, nothing bad takes that long so you know you're fine. Perhaps some self help therapy for health anxiety will help, can google them! Good luck

[yopkaan]

does anyone do this now ? 2018

[Starzzz in reply to yopkaan]

Hey, just came across this too. Everything okay?

[Elcucu in reply to yopkaan]

Im awake at 5 am becaus i dont want to think about it soooo yes.

[adrian45]

Feel like kill my self all the time I need help

Can't stop thinking about it

[Hidden]

I to have this on occasions, I put it down to anxiety/depression.