Been a weird few months, went on a cbt course which was helpful and reassuring. Main thing I have learnt is to not try and fight my anxiety when it comes. I am trying to think to myself when I am in the midst of it " What is the worst that could happen?". Anxiety reaches a point and then it subsides, once you have reached that point and survived it gives you strength to know you will survive again. To anyone out there feeling helpless and hopeless I PROMISE you, in a week or a month ( but probably less) you will feel better. Dont fight your anxiety, let it be there, tell yourself " its just my anxiety, it'll get better soon, I don't need to be scared of it ". Talk to people around you and take every day at a time.
You are not alone.
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Yep I'm learning that one too and to stop thinking about the time it is taking.
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I'm new to this site and have only recently started to experience serious anxiety for the first time in my life. falling asleep ok but then waking up at 2 or 4pm and totally awake, thinking about things that make me even more anxious, about not being able to sleep as the clock ticks remorselessly towards the alarm then going to walk spaced-out. It's been 10 days of this now and have finally had to take the day off work. I've been trying to work out the cause(s) - mum died recently, just started a new and demanding job, male menopause (?) (I'm 47) and also how to deal with it. I keep reading & hearing (my wife's in AA so she knows!) - don't fight it, accept it, but if 'it' is any little thing that it's pointleess worrying about, how do you accept it? I keep telling myself 'don't be stupid, just think of something else, or think of nothing', but it doesn't seem to work.
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Hi martinus. Your Mum dying and your new job have, no doubt, sensitised you. If I may say so, it is a mistake to try and work out the cause. The past is gone and, whatever the cause, the present has to be addressed. Your wife is right. (Are you not fortunate to have someone who understands). It takes ACCEPTANCE and perseverance. I am sure your wife would agree that it also takes TIME. To you "IT" is not a little thing. It is dominating your life at the moment, but it can be diminished and eventually overcome with total ACCEPTANCE. Of course, in your present state, how could you not worry about it. Who wouldn't? But accept even this. Go with it. Do not fight "IT". There is no devil out there waiting to get at you. OK, so wake up early. Even accept that. You cannot think of nothing. The easiest way to remember is to try to not think about something. Trying to think of something else is also self defeating. Say "Elephant" then try not to think about Elephants! And do not call yourself stupid. In that case everyone on this site is stupid!! Think the thoughts, go with them, and remember, they are only thoughts. They can do you no real harm. The very best of luck to you. jonathan.
Hi Spanna9. Absolutely agree. No more need be said about your blog. It as about concise as you can get! You have well and truly hit the nail on the head. The very best of luck to you.Thank you. jonathan.
hi i also agree to a point i stll have trouble when the anxiety just pops its ugly head even though im just having a normal day (well i thought i was) and it hits me like a ton of bricks i was having dinner with my partners familly on sunday in a resturant first time ive meet them and was sitting by the exit as we do lol and from nowhere my heart started beating fast sweaty hands thought i was goning to go mad and just wanted to run away how ever i sat there quite and rode the feelings it was hard but i done it i was very tired later in the day but i was proud of my self that i done it so keep in there i been with my mate anxiety for 20 years now and slowly and surely i am slowly getting rid of it and just keep reminding your self that you do and will survive and get through it im still here xx
Hi pindi. Well done Without probably realising it you have ACCEPTED your feelings: stayed with them and seen them out. This is not easy as you know, but you have done it and the only way for you now is UP. Good luck and blessings to you. jonathan.
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