What is left when you have tried everything, why doesnt my anxeity go away?

[sky_987]

Can anyone help or does anyone feel the same way, living with anxeity for a long period of time having tried counciling, medication, self help books etc what next?

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Hi Sky

I know very well the feeling of hopeless.Till few months ago.When I changed my medications and started CBT.I m facing my fears every day.It s hard work and I don t know if I will always have this strength.The only thing left for me is Hope.big hug xxx

[duckula]

Hi, I'm finding, at the moment, that diazepam is helping me to sleep so I'm breaking the anxiety ccycle. I've been advised to try a high dose of low acidity vitamin c which is good for anxiety. When I'm calmer I'm able to control my thoughts and be active. Even a short walk. I'm trying yoga with a friend on Monday. I find that reading self help books and CBT did nothing for me. I have be DOING something rather than just THINKING. I feel better today. Anxiety will always be in me somewhere but,I'm going to take control of it . It seems like a huge long task but I'm taking each day as it comes. I set myself some tasks for the day and I write down in the evening what I have achieved, even doing the washing!!!!. I hope this helps you in some or a little way.

[anxiousrecoverer]

Hi, I'm in a similar position. I've tried almost all of the medications available over the last 12 years, therapy, self help, and it's still a constant battle against anxiety. Sometimes I feel that I have hope and I just try to stay calm and concentrate on other things, but every couple of weeks I feel so frustrated with the whole thing, and so angry that it has taken so much of my life, that I just want to give up. I've realised that just combatting my anxious thoughts isn't enough. The root thought that drives the anxiety is that my life is pointless seeing as I am rarely happy and do not enjoy things I once found enjoyable. Seeing as I believe the meaning of life is to make the most of it, I feel like I am failing to do that and life is slipping through my fingers - hence the anxiety: "I have to get better NOW because my life is going to waste". What I'm now trying to do is just accept that I often feel unwell, instead of trying to fix it, and kind of trivialise it in my mind and think "oh, this again, pft!" I'm trying to stop thinking about having anxiety and stop checking how I feel, because I think I'm perpetuating it by thinking "am I better yet?" several times a day.

[rouri in reply to anxiousrecoverer]

God bless you, same in here!!! one day will get better!!

[hedgecrone in reply to anxiousrecoverer]

anxiousrecoverer, you speak a lot of good sense and much of what you and sky said resonates with me. I too feel I am wasting my life - I've had anxiety and depression on and off for decades but the last few years it's getting a lot worse. I feel so guilty because my life at the moment is NOT hard but I cannot be happy and I hate myself for it. Recently I have started thinking that I don't deserve to live and each time I hear that someone on the news has died I think 'That should have been me!' and feel so guilty that someone else's life has been taken while I am wasting mine being ill. I feel so desperate about causing harm to others with my illness and general attitude and I try and hide it as best I can but I am finding it terribly difficult and painful. I also resent seeing others happy at times and feel guilty about that too I find it so painful realising that I am actually someone I don't like at all and don't want to be. I'd love to change and have tried so hard over the years. Currently I'm awaiting my second of 3 assessments at the local psychiatric unit, and hoping they will take me on for a relatively new therapy called Mentalisation-Based Therapy. It's very intensive - 2 whole days a week for 18 months. I hope I am suitable for it and don't waste a place that someone else could have had.

But sorry, I've drifted off again - I meant to say also that your attitude of accepting you feel unwell and noticing you are feeling unwell without judging it, sounds brilliant - it's part of Mindfulness which can work wonders for many people with mental illnesses. I did practise Mindfulness for a while, including meditation but got out of the habit and can't seem to get back into it again. I would recommend it though. There are several excellent books on Amazon or elsewhere which guide you through a course, but it's best to go to a 'proper' course if there is one locally.

[sky_987]

Hi all thanks for your answers, it's good to know i am not alone in my thoughts, although i wish we we're not all in similar situations as i know how difficult it is to live with anxeity on a daily basis. It is very frustrating how a few days can pass where you feel like it's getting better and you are making progress then for it to hit you again. I can relate to you hedgecrone as my life at the moment is not hard and i cant understand how i have fallen so deepely into this hole? I can also relate to you anxiousrecoverer, i feel as though there is not point left to life when you can be happy and enjoy the things that you should. I know that i must be strong and get through it one day at a time but it is so very hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks again for your comments.

[Lindenlea]

I really do not know why the anxiety does ot go away, I have been on so many tablets a day but it still renains with me every day of my life. I have agoraphobia panics, and am not able to be alone ever. I started this many years ago when I was 20, had my son at 22 just, and I suppose it took it off my mind for a bit, but never ever went, and I am still on 20 mgs a day Valium, and over the years have had many different my tablets, bjut last 7 years have been on Cipralex, which has put on weight and I hate it, I am on also 75mcgs of thyroid due to palpitations, which scares me to bits, it is made worse now as my husband has altizizheimers, drastic illness that is, he used to be able to help me,but now he is not able to worries me more, so more anxiety, Bless you love from Lindenlea

[janicecarrington]

ive had anxiety more than half my life, sometimes its such a hopeless feeling. remember theres always somebody worse than yourself, though it doesnt always seem that way. count your blessings stay strong & try to think positive, easier said than done i know.