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[Toula223]

I guess I need to come to terms with riding the anxiety wave. I had a traumatic event a few months ago that left me basically crippled with anxiety. As time has gone on I feel the grip of anxiety easing up but then I have days that feels like I’m starting all over again. Guess I’m allowed to have moments. No one is perfect. Some days will be harder than others. Right now My biggest anxiety is my husband. He lost his job and is so sad and down on himself. I want to comfort him so badly but it’s making my anxiety take over. Any tips on being a present and responsive partner while handling your own anxiety too??

[Blue_81]

Hello Toula

Take time for yourself. Anxiety is challenging. Mine started at work due to a coworker. Looking back I should have immediately transferred out of the department or look for another job. Now I have to keep an eye on my anxiety. If i get too stress it triggers the anxiety again. For your husband, there are plenty off jobs in the USA. I think he will find one but I do feel for him. It is hard to lose a job. Hopefully his new job will be better. Take care.

[Toula223 in reply to Blue_81]

thank you for your kind words. I just hope he finds a job soon

[designguy]

You might consider working with a trauma therapist to help you process and heal the trauma so you can move on with your life and not be affected by it. Mine used emdr as part of the therapy and it was very helpful for diminishing my anxiety and no longer being triggered by the traumatic memories. You might also benefit from learning how to best deal with anxiety which is to not fight it or struggle with it but accept it and allow it to flow through you. Anxiety is a paradox and the more you fight it the more it persists. I found the DARE Anxiety book and youtube videos very helpful.