Beating up on oneself

[Starrlight]

I tend to beat up on myself even when I’m doing a good job at something. It’s hard to give myself credit. I am guessing it’s a bad habit that I learned when I was a child. I have so much guilt and shame for just being me. I want to change this but I’m not sure how. Anyone have this problem? Or have ideas to fix it? I try affirmations but I find it difficult to believe.

[Ddorne]

Oh yea, I have this problem. Idontknowwhy either. Maybe an obsession on being worthy.

[Starrlight]

Do you feel like a terrible person? No matter how hard I try I feel like I’m worthless majority of the time. I’m so sorry you go through this also.

[Starrlight]

Thank you Bob

[Hidden]

Hello

When we have been fed negatives all our life's we struggle to think any other way , we struggle with compliments we struggle to believe or accept them because they can even feel uncomfortable as we are not used to it or that is what I find

Someone says something negative or cruel to be it hurts but feels familiar someone says something nice and I want to run a mile !

But we have to slowly start to change that thinking , to stop beating ourselves up it is those that did that to us as a child that were in the wrong not that child that now is an adult but been left feeling that way to realise you were not all those things

Take one thing a day that you can say that is positive or I did well with that anything no matter how small and slowly as you deserve it start to repair the damage that was done that you were innocent and did not deserve

You are not the only one that has been left feeling this way and struggling to re program what was drummed into you but we must because we deserve it , we are good people and we have lot's to offer

Take Care x

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Wisdom. Thanks

[EuroJoy]

I used to have similar feelings earlier. I used to beat myself up and feel bad about everything, or that I am not good enough. This was until I became a christian - I don't mean joining a religion but rather getting to know God personally through Jesus Christ. I got new hope and got secure in my identity of who I am. The Bible tells me I am wonderfully made, in the image of God. So, why do I need to think otherwise. Hope you find comfort and security in the knowledge that you too are wonderfully made and loved just as you are. I hope you will tell yourself that. Sending you a hug

[Nevertheless]

You are a good person and deserve credit ✅🤩Love Trudy

[Nevertheless]

You are probably just humble but take some credit where it’s due