Heart hurts from comment

[Starrlight]

Having family over and they said to my son no wonder since she (me) is your mom that you think there’s flesh eating diseases in the pool... it hurts but I know I am really bad off I just didnt want it announced and didn’t expect that comment and the laughter with it. I was able to laugh at myself but afterwards it stings.

[Kkimm]

Yes it was an unkind or at least thoughtless remark.

Really hope you are by now feeling less hurt by it.

My thoughts and best wishes are with you.

Kim

[Starrlight in reply to Kkimm]

Yeah I have let it go... whatever...I do worry! I’m a good mom.

[Agora1]

I'm sorry Starrlight. People should think before they speak.

Once the words are said, it's hard to delete the hurt it caused. xx

[Starrlight in reply to Agora1]

I think I’m about over it and I mean I may have even taken it wrong can’t recall their actual wording but while it had stung, I’m resilient.

[lovetodance2018]

I am glad you were able to laugh at the moment. Don’t let yourself dwell on it. I am learning to let go and not focus on what is not important or allowing others to steal my joy. I am listening to an audio book that has some great points. It has some bad language but great concepts. It is called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F... I have changed the bad word to “care” when I listened.

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I hope it gives you some encouragement. It has for me and a lot of good point to think about. Hugs and Happy New Year.

[Mrspjsmom]

Words hurt more than people realize. They think laughter will help but it doesn't. You are doing the best you can. You love your son and you had family over for the holiday. That is a lot. I promise you when your son is older you will be suprised to learn he doesn't even remember what you think are your greatest sins as a mother. My son is 30. My daughter is 26 and I have finally been able to forgive myself for some of the things I did while they were growing up. They don't remember almost everything I think I did wrong. But they do remember the house being decorated for the holidays and family coming together on those days. You have given your son that and much, much more. HUGS!

[Daniellesparkles]

Aww it’s okay,

and hey if you’re feeling like that then those feelings are valid

They’re your feelings

Don’t let their comments get you down

Only you know what you’re concerns are about 🙂

Xx. -Dani

[Hidden]

Hello

Over the years I have had so many nasty comments said about me by family especially my Dad who is no longer here and yes it hurts of course it does but after years of these comments of one kind or another I finally realised that it was not me that had a problem but them as for someone to be so cruel says more about how nasty they are , money cannot buy a nice soul and that is what you have so you are very rich indeed

Take Care x

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Awwww thank you 🥰 🙏 😃 but sorry you have gone through it as well.

[Hidden in reply to Starrlight]

You end up growing a thick skin as we say round here and I know I do my best and that is all that matters and you always do your best to , so up theirs x

[Poodie]

Sounds pretty nasty and unfeeling to me! And to say it to your child is pretty bad.

Sound like you were outnumbered too.

Of course you’d feel bad if that is what was said.

I took that kind of thing for a very long time growing up and onward. I eventually told my family members one by one that I was not going to take those remarks anymore and if they couldn’t be decent then I did not care to have anything to do with them.

I got a typical response like . Are you

alright ? As if I was psychotic. You know, It’s not them that are crazy; it must be me!

It’s a textbook response for unfeeling manipulators.

I realized they were not capable of changing. They are basically mean people, but I’d rather then act “as if “they are nice then be condescending and insulting to me.

My perceptions are usually right on and I have learned to pay attention to them.

I am not saying this is your situation, You are the best judge of how to handle your situations.

But if it ever is, you may want to stand up for yourself and demand the respect every human being deserves.

❤️❤️