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Anxiety Daughter is going out of town for a Wedding.

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My daughter is going to be in her friends Wedding and is leaving today for the rehearsal Friday is the Wedding. We live in NJ and she has to go to MD.

Every time she has to go somewhere my Anxiety goes through the roof. Can’t stop crying. My daughter is 28 she’s not a child.

Anyone have any tips. I hate doing this every time. This stinks.

Thanks

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GodinHealthcare

Firstly, you're not alone.

Second, I suggest keeping something small of hers (think favorite scrunchie around your wrist, a coin that is significant to you and her somehow I keep something tiny in my grasp to focus negative energy toward. It helps tremendously. Otherwise, make sure to text her without being too invasive of her free time :) It's your anxiety not hers.

Many Blessings!

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Deb4961 in reply to GodinHealthcare

Thanks so much

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Tikirob

Know that your daughters condition is not your fault and definitely not her fault. That she is a valiant individual for going to the wedding despite having a devastating anxiety disorder. Tell her how proud you are of her for being brave enough to challenge her anxiety that the more she does the stronger she will get.

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Deb4961 in reply to Tikirob

Thanks for responding. I’m the one with the anxiety not her.

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Tikirob in reply to Deb4961

Oh sorry!!! I read it too quick! I’m such a dunce. I don’t have children but when my ex fiancé used to go away I would worry. I think the best thing you can do is when she goes away make your own little game plan to stay busy. Make sure you are active. Plan lunches with friends, work overtime, go to the movies, try to keep engaged with something and plan a time when you can talk with her.

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Dolphin14

Is your daughter aware of your anxiety.

My grown children know about my issues.

They know I worry. They will shoot a text to say they are ok etc, arrived safe, having a good time.

If she knows about your issues I'm sure she wouldn't mind helping to alleviate some of your anxiety.

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Deb4961 in reply to Dolphin14

Oh yes she knows. Today is a better day. I’ve spoken with her a lot.

Thank you fir your kind words.

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Dolphin14 in reply to Deb4961

That's great news:)

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LaPetiteGen

As a mom, we will always worry over our children. Regardless of their age. My daughter is also 28 and has two children. She lives far away and I only get to see them a few times a year. No matter where they are or what they are doing there will be times that I go into worry- Worry over accidents, worry over evil, sickness- you name it. When I find myself going to that place of fretting I literally have to take control over my thoughts and feelings. Acknowledging them without judgment, but then remind myself that I've raised her the best way I can- she is an adult now and must live her life. I then give all my fears, dreams, wishes etc. for my child and grandchildren to God. He made them, He loves them even more than me, He has a plan for them and I choose to trust that He has the best for them. Helps me every single time. Praying you find what works for you and don't let fear overwhelm you.

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