I’ve done it now.

[DemureRose]

My friend is mad at me. But I’m going to give a brief backstory before I explain why. So I’m a senior in high school which means college is on the horizon and I’m supposed to start looking. Well I basically have two options so I signed up for a tour on one. However the tour ended up not just being a tour, it was more of a group get together with meetings and such. That is totally more than I want. I just wanted a nice tour of the campus. Nothing else, nothing personal. Just reading about the activities sent me into a panic attack. So I told my mom I didn’t want to go and she told me it was no big deal and she’d cancel it. Well...she never cancelled it and that’s where this begins.

The other day I was talking to my friend and she told me she was going to the same thing. I told her that I’d signed up but decided not to go, I guess she didn’t hear that last part. This morning (day of the “tour”) I woke up to a message from her saying “hey saw your name on a name tag! Just waiting on you!” AHHHH. My stomach sunk. She sounded so excited that I was coming and I had to tell her that no I was not coming and she was going to be all alone! I texted her many times but she’s not answered me and the guilt is intense right now. I know I told her but I feel like I shouldn’t have said anything about even signing up. It’s just another prime example of my social anxiety making life hard for the people around me. #socialanxietygoals

[hypercat54]

Hi you told your friend you weren't going to go so it's not your problem if she is now annoyed. Maybe she remembers now and is feeling embarrassed. I would give it a day or two and ring or text calmly asking her about it and just mentioning that she seemed to have forgotten you said you weren't going.

Don't make a big thing of it or bring up anything else. If you treat it lightly then so will she. And if she doesn't don't get drawn into any arguments and stick to the point. x